Question for lonely men over 50.

You know, you can't be friends because you like her more than friends already. You just seem lonely and should try to find your age guy friends until you are out of loneliness and ready to make female friends. Anyway, try to not look at woman with lust since you want to stay calm for that long streak and better try to talk more than you look.

 

The bottom line is that the attraction has to be there, otherwise the whole thing is a big zero.

Some guys are attracted to women outside of the fertile years. Some women age well if they take care of themselves. You probably can think up your own example/s.


As for me, I don't know. Stephen Stills sang, "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with."

I'd like to introduce you to ___ah, my friend here ____ah, is it Sheila? Sandra! This is Sandra!
Sandra's from ____ah____.....
UTAH!
Yes it was on the tip of my tongue...

 

Sorry, I'm 35 so feel free to disregard my answer.

What's the problem with being friends with younger women. You do not have to force yourself to like the company of older women if you don't see value in that.

Be friends, be happy, hang out together. Females appreciate the experience and you benefit from a good time from a company you desire and value. Nothing wrong with that.

 

For me, the problem is giving resources to women who put me in the friend zone.

The other problem is that if I don't know if I'm in the friend zone,
there's a lot of tension.

It's a strange place, to like someone, but be "hanging out".

Either go on a date or don't, fish or cut bait.

You asked "what's the problem", that is my answer/opinion.

 

I'm a 14 year old so my advice is most likely trash

i know that I value alone time, i feel at ease when alone, i feel better alone. what might be true for me but not you.

I say it's 2 adults and they can do whatever they want if it's consensual. i see no point in controlling people.

other people have different opinions than me, and that's fine. i can't control what people think.

i know i have no dating plans for a while. i don't know when i'll dabble in dating, but when I will i will most likely move one day at a time.

I say move one day at a time and enjoy your life. don't waste your energy lusting for women. talk to male friends and focus on your goals in life and the rest follows.

 

Such wisdom for a young man!

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And what makes me angry about the situation is that the only real, healthy way
to move forward, is to find out UP FRONT what she wants or will do.

Which steals the romance for me.

 

All that is pretty good. Wait until you find a woman who you really, really, really like.