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Question about willpower

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Travis90210, Aug 5, 2018.

  1. Aug 5, 2018 #1
    Travis90210

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    Hi all, I've been trying to do Nofap for three years now, and have only once gotten over 20 days. Every time I relapse I feel absolutely horrible, and I've been in this cycle for what seems like eternity. I don't need any convincing that quitting PMO is a good idea, I've been set on that for three years. It just seems like when the urges build up, I'm completely powerless. I always end up slipping. Then I pick myself back up and try again, but it's just getting harder and harder because I'm almost certainly going to relapse after a few days.

    My question is really, is success in breaking a PMO addiction about just willing your way through the urges? When I feel the urges should I just fight it with every ounce of my body, and am I just being weak and that's why I keep relapsing?

    It just seems like all the inspiration in the world can't help me, because it always seems to drain after a few days, and then I'm back at day 0.

    Thank you to anybody who reads this/responds.
     
    Travis90210, Aug 5, 2018
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  2. Aug 5, 2018 #2
    Travis90210

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    My day tracker should say 0 by the way, I wrote this out of desperation after relapsing again.
     
    Travis90210, Aug 5, 2018
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  3. Aug 5, 2018 #3
    BoomSlang

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    Hey mate, I was in the same boat as you and still am to an extent. You arn't weak because you are doing something about it. You aren't giving up. I respect that. You are a man and us men have our weaknesses. (I'm assuming you are a bloke with a name like Travis, but ya never know)
    I'll give you some tips that help me:
    1. Get a motive a source for the willpower to come from e.g. Getting your life back, following your religion/ faith, wanting healthy relationships
    2. When you relapse don't beat yourself up, you are strong for getting up again
    3. Counting days can either be a curse or a blessing, try a month, it might work, is working for me
    4. Put your energy into becoming a better man, be confident, watch alpha male videos, self-improvement videos
    5. Tell someone or multiple trustworthy people about your problems, a shared burden is a lighter one
    6. What you think or meditate on is what you become, get a hobby and get into it, find your passion and only think about that, for me that is my faith in God and love for the environment

    It's rough man, but you'll beat it. Stop the bad sexual thoughts when they begin and find meaningful relationships. I'll be praying for you.
     
    BoomSlang, Aug 5, 2018
    BoomSlang, Aug 5, 2018
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