Does anybody have any experience with more "progressive" fetishes like weight gain, bimbofication, etc.? I have a wg fetish myself, and I do think it's pretty natural but I'm married and I don't want my wife to participate in it. I think the thing that makes it so difficult for me is knowing this fetish can't come into the real world and the progressive nature of it which is the thought that often hooks me in. I really want to deal with the thoughts along the lines of " I wonder if she has gained any weight recently". Any tips? Another question, connected to this first one, is how do people live with fetishes they can't engage with? As I said, (1) I knew I had this fetish after my first few times watching porn so I think it's natural but irdk and (2) I'm already married to someone who I'm pretty sure is not into my fetish.
Just have to come to terms with the thought that you can’t have everything. You have a wonderful wife and that is the choice you made. You could have also chosen to pursue your fetishes with other women instead but you prioritized a deep and meaningful lifelong relationship instead. I’ve thought about this as well. And another angle that I’ve thought of is, do I really want to engage in this fetish if I had the opportunity? I did have a chance to live out a specific sexual act many times that had been lingering for many years. And interestingly enough, it sucked! Was not what I expected and I didn’t really enjoy it too much, but I continued to pursue it anyways. Why? I don’t know. I would then use porn and masturbate to the same act I engaged in and had intense pleasure, way better than the real thing. So it goes to show, sometimes fantasy is better than reality. This goes for things outside of sexual fantasies. You may visualize a certain lifestyle but once you have it (it you get it) it’s not all that fantastic and doesn’t live up to your fantasy.
I'm just at the point where I am throwing in the towel and saying, the best fetishes are no fetishes. I have tried to embrace the ones that I have to no avail. I don't think that it is possible to have a healthy relationship find a satisfaction for my appetites without hiring a sex-worker or going back to my old ways of watching porn. The most I want is to be happy and fulfilled and hopefully and hopefully I can find a good woman along the way. But I find that I am falling further away from any of these things if I keep lusting after my fantasies.
I know of the existence of a WG fetish where the arousal is from getting fat yourself. i think this is a sub-type of gay masochism? Maybe (both types) are forms of Body Dysphoria I would understand getting fat for a boxing fight ( if you have to fight butterbean ) but otherwise, it will hurt your longevity to forcefully chow down calories
don’t you dare to quit! what are the methods you’ve tried? Let’s help each other out. I’m in the same boat except that not even a sex worker can satisfy my needs. We both broken, so let’s help each other heal. Come on man i need you to be strong!
Relax man, the hiatus is for my fetishes, not NoFap. That being said however, I am more than willing to talk and give you the methods I highly suggest that you try.
Im talking about fetishes. I am battling my own fetishes. I’ve had it all: depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts and hopelessness. Wasn’t until I realized that mine is trauma related in some way which makes it even more difficult. I’m all chill, just trying to motivate and remind you that it ain’t over.
