Hi guys, first time poster. Not sure whether this qualifies for the 'Relationships' side of NoFap, but.. eh. I have watched porn since 4 years ago, I'm currently 17 years old. So... My girlfriend is my first 'proper' girlfriend. Her and I are 'intimate', although I use that term loosely. We've been pretty much together for over half a year and we started making out a couple of months ago. We've only been able to do it a few times, but they've been tarnished somewhat by the fact that I ejaculate whilst in the process. 2 out of the 3 times we've made out, to be exact. The first time, she didn't notice. Although I spent a lot of time in her toilet cleaning it up which raised suspicion no doubt. Navy skinny jeans are pretty good. The second time I came, I wore shorts.. Beige shorts.. So embarrassing. I felt I had to tell her. She was on top of me and no doubt could she feel the 'process' happen. Again, I went to her toilet to clean it. I let her know and she was really considerate about it, saying "It's okay" and all those comforting expressions. She now knows about this and I just hope she is really 'okay' with it. The third time wasn't as long of a makeout session as the others which favoured my chances of surviving 'jizz-free'. And I did. Anyway, now that you know the backstory, is it Porn and Masturbation (combined) that messes with my brain to finish that quickly? Or is it my inexperience with a girl? Either way, this is one of the main reasons why I joined NoFap.com. Cheers, WhoStoleMySock
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I would say it's probaly your inexperience/age, but it also depends on your PMO habits. There are things that you can do about it, but it may take months/experiences.
Well it's quite natural to ejaculate fast, think in terms of nature. How do we survive etc. I think you shouldn't look at it like a problem as a matter of fact only in the business they go on for long. About 90% of man comes within 3 minutes It's complete normal and you haven't had many experience with a girl. I haven't been able to finish while being with a girl, it's really rude. Keep on no fapping though, the energy you lose will build up and let you do other things!
It is perfectly normal to come quick when you are with a girl. Think of it as a compliment to your beautiful girlfriend, that she turns you on that easy . Porn makes men and women believe that men have to be able to last for hours during sex, while it is perfectly normal to ejaculate within 10 minutes. But yes, PMO could cause both delayed ejaculation and premature ejaculation. When watching porn, we tend to skip to the "good stuff". Once we have found the good stuff there is no need to masturbate for ages just to please the girl, so we tend to reach our orgasm within minutes (or possibly even seconds). To keep this story short: we tend to "train" our brain into ejaculating quick once we are really turned on. A part of it can also be inexperience, which can be trained too in a very fun way: Practice a lot with your girl . These are just my 2 cents, I hope it's a good read for some.
First off, what happens in P is not real, it is as fake as it gets. The far majority of women would hate most of what is happening to them in P. So remember, you GF would not appreciate any of it, especially early on in a relationship. Do not worry about what is happening, and since she is understanding, you have a good one there. Take it easy, relax, and enjoy her, the person. It'll all come naturally. The nice think about being young is you will be able to get hard within 5 min. again, and usually won't be so fast to come. But do, give up the P, it is a twisted view on sex. Women like it slow, steady, and not pounding for hours, that's only in porn!
Perfectly normal due to age and inexperience. As others said, it gets better with practice. It's good to learn your body and learn to speak up when you feel yourself at the point of no return, out of consideration and also so that she can learn from your sessions too. BTW, be careful where that stuff goes. You don't need PIV penetration to get a girl pregnant, especially at 17. If you get into more heavy petting, it might be a good idea to practice with condoms even when you're not going to have full-on sex. Makes clean-up easier for one thing, and it's good to get used to them.
This used to happen to my 17 yr old boyfriend all the time! Totally normal. He was always embarrassed but I never understood why as it was a result of him being turned on which was great
I wish I could ejaculate so easily I'm 33 and never ejaculated because of sex with a girl. That it's not normal. Your situation is totally normal and you should talk to her and tell her that it is a very normal process. You ejaculate because you really like her and with more experience your body will learn how to deal the situation. Anyway, consider eliminating porn. That is crap.
Thanks for all the replies. Yep, well I'm already in the process of trying to get rid of porn all together (Counter clock thing, thanks PainIsTemporary) and with this website, I hope to get further and further down the track without P and M. (M is pretty much eradicated though)
Totally normal. At your age, time alone almost certainly will help with this. But I also agree that eliminating P and keeping M to a minimum will help. Most of us learn to M at a time in our lives when it is important to O as soon as possible because we don't have the time or privacy to be leisurely about it. (And for some of us, that recurs later on when we have wives and/or kids). So we train our brains and our bodies to get right to it. Then, when we actually want to take our time, our brains no longer know what to do.
I think its great that you come so easily from making out. I remember when I was 17 or 18 I would also come fast without top much Stimulation. Since then and due to heavy porn consumption I lost that ability. At the end I could have sex with a hot girl for 45minutes and could not ejaculate, instead my penis just lost erection. I felt shitty about that and girls also hate this. Porn makes you believe a woman wants to be fucked for hours but in reality they don't. And they feel like there's something wrong about them if you can't come when having sex with em like they were not sexy enough. So reduce your porn consumption, its really bad for you and has a negative influence on your sex life, especially long terms. Please don't be worried that you ejaculate fast, its great! Best wishes, Johnny
Well, that's what I'll be getting. My girlfriend and I broke up. Probably for the best Hahaha, sorry. Just don't get semen anywhere near her vagina and you're all good.
