So, this summer i lost my virginity with a 18y old woman that had some men already on his back. At first i think i lasted 4-5 mins not so fast but not so slow (0 EXP) 4legged and lying on bed. Also with no condom. 2 drinks on me. Next times were disastrous (5-6 times aprox the next days), get the dick in, fuck for 30 seconds and i was already cumming (those were with condoms), girl didn't said anything but she wasn't pleasant with the situation, she wanted someone who fucked her hard i guess and i couldn't do it. Then she was evading from fucking and making excuses even thought i went down and helped with my hand, she wanted someone to fuck atleast 5 mins i guess and i couldn't. I want to make some progress on this, since i am already blaming myself all day for this, i could have done sex with another woman and i won't do it because of fear for this thing. I also don't want to use c1alis, dapoxetina.. I bought myself a fleshlight to practice, but i don't see much progress, trying kegels, nothing, you gotta be fucking making that muscle hard all time? I got hard erections so i guess that kegels even makes me cum faster.. I would like to control myself to the point were i can choose when to eyaculate. I am also circumcised, when my dick isn't hard i don't feel much, but i get super hard erections and i feel a lot when it is hard. Tried to masturbate myself on the prior hours, didn't help at all, i can jack myself and i can last if i want, i think that is caused because i don't get a 100% ERECTION and so i don't tense my muscles that hard and that tensation makes me cum fast? Even thinking i might have peyrone from how much blood my dick gets on the erection before the first cumming. Trying fleshlight, on missionary i can maybe last 20 seconds inside-outside and i already want to cum, i can maybe last 5-12 minutes with a flesh but making 50 stops, and i can't do that with a woman. ¿¿ REVERSE-KEGELS ?? How i can manage not to get a 100% erection? On the second round (i couldn't test second round with a real woman) i can last but my dick doesn't get that hard, and for me is easier to control and to fuck, because i don't get a top curve on my dick. PD: I masturbate with fleshlight without porn. Thanks you
Dude, it takes some time to reset your mind and your dick. I've tried some of the NEO tricks they discuss in the forum under transmutation. I went almost 2 hours of solid thrusting. It felt damn good to go that long but it was so mechanical she couldn't cum. The kegels work also but it is really hard to find the right one to use. Calm down, breath and try to enjoy the feeling. The first time I actually let go and allowed myself to feel it was amazing. We condition ourselves to cum a certain way while MO or PMO.
Had the same issues you described it's kinda shocking how similar 1:1 and i'm 30. First off it might be a brain thing. i bet you are trying to slide in and think "please don't cum please don't cum please don't cum" then you cum. I know it's hard but don't put your self in so much preassure. i had to learn it the hard way. Talk open to friends about that than you might realize that every second or third also have this issue and if not than every second and third is lieing to you Try to be present and enjoy everything around it in NOW. prolong the forplay don't get in and straigt to her breast and Vagina. just calm and apriceate what wonderful being is laying next to you. Stoping Porn also helped me. i trained my brain to cum in 30 seconds while grabing my dick and double click because thats the time i needed to get my kick infront the screen. i think the combination of Stoping Porn, Accepting i have an issue. and you are not alone helped me. it got so much better. and it is a thing that can be healed no worries sad i realized it to late
I'm having this issue since September to be honest and it is taking too damn long. I don't know what do you mean with reset your mind / dick. Could you explain that NEO trick you talking about? Yeah, I think Kegels, or in my case Reverse-Kegels might work, but i don't know a decent APP / tutorial on how to train it. As I said, I do think i might have too hard erections caused by PC muscle? I can last, atleast 20m with Fleshlight after the first cum, and thats only because I think i don't have a FULL erection. At first I was thinking about that. Then I realized, ok, Its my fault I just need to keep going and try to fix it. Yes, I do try to prolong the foreplay, we do talk and enjoy being together, a lot of kisses and touching. Damn, one of those first times i came even with her just on top with trousers, just by kissing :facepalm: Now I do try to stay calm and doesn't happen anymore, but its about fucking and I do cum in 10 seconds! I don't watch porn. I don't usually cum easy way myself with my hand. I do know I have an issue, thats why I need some advice
Man please stop talking about pills. Pills are not the answer to nothing, especially of PE. I really wonder how is possible that people thinks about pills that easy, wow.... Btw, that's a pretty common thing. My advice, and it works 100%, is to start with long and calm foreplay. Learn how to stimulate clitoris and the G spot with your fingers. There's plenty of articles about it. Once you gave her 2 orgasm BEFORE penetration, shell be happy anyway, guaranteed. Plus, don't make excuses while you're with her and don't cry about it, you're embarrassing her by doing that. Just make up a funny line like "you see, you make me too horny" and laugh about it.
I was thinking about pills just to get myself confident at those early stages of sex, its embarrassing to cum in 20 seconds. Yes, i do stimulate clitoris & G spot, I try to stay calm and foreplay. Yes I do make her cum with my fingers / licking, but I do WANT to fuck HER for STRAIGHT 20 Mins, Her and any woman that meets me. I wanna be a master on sex. I don't make any excuses, would anyone making excuses making this thread? I don't cry, trust me.
Okay man seems like you know what to do. In this case it's a matter of time and experience! We all have been in your shoes at some point, don't worry about it!
I need some help tho! Need info on how to manage my hard erections, how to do proper kegels & reverse-kegels
Yes, but how to do those Kegels properly? Today i masturbated for 30 mins, 15 without porn and 15 with porn. I would like to take that long with a girl.. I don't understand whats going on..
I would have to disagree with that. I agree with pills not being a valid solution in the long term, but in some cases taking pills can help. PE can have many reasons. A key component of this PE problem is aligning your level of physical arousal with your mental one. Pills help you with the former (I think we agree on that). A stronger erection that will last longer will help you eliviate existing psychological problems like performance anxiety. Which will boost your confidence and trigger a positive feedback loop. I disagree that pills do not automatically cure your PE but in some cases they help. And in those cases where they don't and you still cum early you will be able to get back to action sooner thereby prolonging the overall duration of the act thereby helping with the experience and we end up in the positive feedback loop argument.
New Mha, i really don't see this as a possible solution, unless there is some physical issue going on of course. If you aren't able to have sex at a young age, there's much more then en erection or some anxiety problems to fix. It's a matter of personal challenge and proud.
bro..it will take some time for the recovery..by the way i'll tell some tricks to satisfy the girl even if u have premature ejaculation..foreplay is the key to girl's satisfaction..before inserting ur penis in her vagina,you should treat her like a pet..give her some nice massage on her shoulders,cheeks and kiss her neck, draw imaginary paintings on her body with ur fingers gently,then hug her and give ur warmth to her,then get on to the bed and move ur fingers to her vagina and insert ur fingers in her vagina and make her happy and wet,it's better to kiss her during this time so that she feels like u are very special to her..after this all procedures,gently insert ur dick on to her vagina and do sex..a nice foreplay can make any girl more attracted to you..best of luck!
