Premature Ejaculation

I'm in quite a similar boat as you, so will be following the replies with interest.

My workaround has been returning to slow M-sessions to re-train my dick, but I seriously doubt it's something that 90% of the users on the forums should be doing!

 

Congratulations to you both on your reboots and overall progress so far. You should be very proud.

That's great that you're beginning what we call the rewire, where you have positive sexual experiences that retrain your brain to desire real relationships and real women instead of porn.

Having PE after a hardmode reboot is very common, and is even expected! This means that you have at least quelled the part of your brain addicted to porn, which is no small feat. It is also very common to not find sex very pleasurable after your first reboot. I experienced both these symptoms as well, not being able to last more than 3ish minutes and finding sex no more satisfying than sneezing or pooping.

DO NOT MASTURBATE OR PMO to get rid of your PE. It will only make your problem worse and get in the way of all the progress you've made.

Instead, what you need to do is keep having sex.

Your mind is so overloaded by stimuli and sensation that it cannot contain your orgasms. If you keep having sex, this will subside in time.

If you're having sex frequently (2-4 times per week), your body won't be as "loaded up" with semen every time, so you will last longer. Similarly to how it takes longer to MO if your sessions are close together, you will last longer if your sex sessions are frequent.

Regardless of frequency, the more you have sex, the more you will be able to control yourself. Whenever you do have sex, be very in the moment and don't worry about your orgasm. Look at your lady and take in all her beauty, take note of her smell and taste, and pay attention to yourself as well! Keep your pelvic floor relaxed (don't flex the muscles that make your dick go up and down), pay attention to the positions/speeds/sensations that make you feel like you need to orgasm, and just enjoy the moment. Smile, laugh, talk, moan, groan, whatever you feel like doing. Stay calm, don't worry about your dick/orgasm, and just have a good time.

The more you have sex, if you follow the advice above, the more in control of your orgasms you will become. Your body wants to feel good! As long as you stay relaxed and in the moment, you'll gain control each time. Additionally, if you pay attention to your arousal cycle and what positions sensations, speeds, and angles put you over the edge, you can learn to ride that edge or avoid it to last longer.

I had a very similar issue to you when I first rebooted. After the 90 days, I could not control my orgasms at all (sex was sometimes 20 minutes, sometimes 2). The sex also didn't feel very good and was just another biological process like sneezing. After about 6 weeks the sex felt great, but my PE was really bad (only could last 3 minutes).

I followed the advice I found on YBOP and this site (the advice I gave above), and after 6 weeks, I was in very good control of my orgasms (could last anywhere I wanted from 3-25 minutes), I was very erect the whole way through, and it felt fantastic the whole time. Just keep having sex, your body will adjust, and you'll be lasting as long as you want soon enough. As long as your girl is happy and you feel good, don't worry about it at all