Hey all!!! So I'm in day 6 now of NoFap Hard mode and am really liking my results so far. Had a couple close calls but besides that going strong. The reason for this post is that I find myself not getting really 'aroused' when I see girls in 'sexy' outfits... Not to say I'm actively looking for this stuff, but when I do see it and just think 'Wow she's gorgeous!!!' Im not really aroused 'down there'.... Im starting to get kinda concerned about it... I used to kinda at least notice a little bit of 'movement' but now its like nothing... Like is this normal this quickly? Am I just so used to getting release from PMO that I expect to be PMOing to get aroused? Would it be wrong to 'test' myself to see if this is true? or would that make me have to reset? Im kinda concerned and would like to hear opinions and advice... Thanks in advance!!!
Depending on the frequency you consumed porn this might be your brain being confused. Testing yourself in general is a bad idea, i assume you wont go ahead and try to pleasure yourself in public. So you will either use mental images of what you have seen during the day or photos on social media. This is close enough to porn to lead to a relapse, i mean whats the difference in truth? My advice is dont worry about it too much, see if it keeps this way or if it reverts to normal. If you still have this problem after 30+ days, you can ask yourself again what you want. Dont just give in to the temptations, you are on the way of rebooting dont just let it go to waste to be "sure". Your brain is tricking you to get the dopamine rush it desires.
Thanks for that... yea i feel like that is just about right... Ill be honest. I used social media to like i said 'test myself' but when i realized like you said what i was doing to just give myself the dopamine without the actual work I decided to stop and see what happens in the next couple weeks... Thanks again for the reply I appreciate it!!!
Hey there! Let me tell you my quick story. I started no-PMO challenge on 11th of December. When I started, I made a streak of a few hours until 14 days. I could describe my situation like that: So I questioned myself like that: And so I tested myself just a bit, not to break a streak, but just to see how much I needed to get aroused. Can you guess what happened? If you answered the last one with "yes, you relapsed", you're right. But you missed the details. If I used to rate the biggest urge within first 14 days as 8/10, I'm at 11/10 right now (my streaks after 1st one: 1 week, 2 days. resisting urges for 9/10). The cliche's point of story: be free to watch other girls in public and fantasize during that if you wish, but NOTHING more, anywhere and anytime. Don't touch your dick. Don't stop at random porn pics (at the start it won't be harmful, but it secretly boost your dopamine for long-term). If you still fail, you don't want to get even close to orgasm. And I'm serious, not overreacting even a bit. You don't want to get on the same train, bro. I envy you because you know that now.
Thanks man! I appreciate the openness you had with your personal struggles. Its been tough... the urge is real and getting harder to resist. also thanks for the flat out 'DONT' that was probably needed.
You see a hot girl, you get excited - that's pretty normal, I guess. But instead of thinking what would you do with her, just think - about her parents, maybe she has siblings, maybe she's hot, but stupid - biggest turnoff for me :v Idk, just don't think of them like bags of meat just made to fulfill your fantasies. If I'm wrong, then someone tell me to delete this.
I think you are right and wrong. It is generally not wrong to admire or fantasise a bit about the beauty or attractiveness of the other sex (or same sex if that is your thing). But for addicts these rules may apply differently. In the beginning I would suggest trying to avoid staring at the sex you are attracted too for as much as possible. Not because it might be bad in itself, but it might make your brain scream for porn when you get back home. And then it is just a matter of time before your willpower gives in and you fail. After a while you build a "protection system". You get stronger at resisting wanting to go back to pmo after you see things that excite you. But that takes a while of nofap.
I totally agree with you man! What really matters is how long i let my mind wander and where I let it wander to. If I let it go too far then theres a problem!
