Hello everyone! I've been addicted to porn since age 9. Now at 33y/o its been for majority of my life. And the addiction got even worse once I got married. I've had no real desire to sleep with my wife of 10 years, and we just filed for divorce last week, as intimacy was the determining factor in staying together. Crazy thing, she is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS... smh I'm on the verge of losing someone I really truly love... And I'm freaking out... Thus the reason I'm here... Glad I found this site.
I’ve tried multiple times in the past. But she never took me seriously.. she kinda laughed it off like it was nothing or like I was making it a bigger deal than what she thought it was.
I'm so sorry to hear about your marriage problems. My heart goes out to you and your wife. It's really too bad she doesn't see just how big an issue it is. I really hope you and her can work things out. Welcome here as well. I'm new here too. We need each other. We need to encourage each other, to listen to each other's problems, and to help each other out. All the best bro.
I really hope things turn out for the better for you. I've been married for seven years now and had severe PIED for the first five or so. Then I found NoFap and had a brief recovery, which allowed my wife and I to conceive. Now, with my son turning one, I am back because I can't afford to do to him what I did with my wife -- I can't afford to be consumed by this addiction. I personally can't ever mention PMO to my wife because I know that she would lose all faith and trust in me. She would be right to do so. But if I did speak with her, NoFap has so many resources that can help her understand me better. Maybe if your wife saw the studies on yourbrainonporn and the reports on NoFap, she would see how serious this is. When children are exposed to porn at such a young age, their dopamine systems adapt and to me, this is no worse than child abuse. Accepting that this is a form of abuse, I think, is the first step to treating it as an addiction -- a very serious biological condition.
I'm sorry to read this about your marriage. My feelings to you! Here is a great place to start recovering. Always focus on the target, if you need help, do not hesitate to search. Good luck in your new walk. I know you can!
Keep being open and honest. Work on your problem and you will both start to notice improvement more quickly than you might think, if you are both open and supportive.