porn destroyed my life...hopelessly lost... need help!

Welcome here! You will find people who are in the same situation as yours, you will find some who are even worse. Our common point is that we all want to get out of this habit. We fight together with our own religious, moral or life convictions. But we are all here to be fully alive and master of our lives and of your penis which is part of our body. I can control my arm I shouls be able to control my dick.
Look around, you will find some advice to help you.

What I would tell you is, despite you feel very bad and veey low, you have the greatest gift ever: you are alive. When I feel bad, I think of all the kids in the hospitals dying from cancer and I say thank you for my life. I have been losing my hair since I am 18 and I got used to it. I had girlfriends and sex relationship and nobody never complained about it. It is the way you see it, how you look at yoursemf which is important.

Quitting PMO will help you to get more confidence in youeself, just read through some posts.

Add a counter to your profile and choose small objectives. You already did 5 days, choose 7 and then 10, 15... Think also of all the other persones here who are also fighting ans when I feel I am going to fail, I tell myself that I musr not relapse because of the mates here. I come here and help other people. It has been helping since 35 days, second attempt. If I could do it, you can do it. I trust you.

Do not hesitate to post rzgularly and ask for an AP.

I will pray fir you

Nico

 

Hold Tight Bro, I'm just too fucking tired to tell my story, but I'll definitely be checking in on you Feel free to return the favor.

 

I suggest the following steps to start with:
1). Get an accountability partner from here
2). Read yourbrainonporn.com, especially the 4 part video series. Knowledge of exactly how addiction works will go a long way in eradicating it from your life.
3). Update your journal regularly

You can do this.

 

Just keep going bro!

You've already made the choice to stop.
Use the pain that PMO has caused you to motivate you.
GREATNESS IS WITHIN

Keep going brother!

 

Wow, I can really relate fapAddict.

At least youve taken the first step and recognised that the stuff that youre feeding your life with is all crap. Porn, weed, games, whatever - all escapes from reality fed to us by heartless corporations and idiot celebrities.

The second step is giving it up - hacking it off you. Even though it might feel like killing yourself, it's the only thing that will release you from the slavery and it aint gonna feel good.

I think a lot of us get stuck on this second step - which makes PMO all the more bitter, because at least before we were informed, we thought that it was a normal, fun thing to do!

I tend to believe that you cant get out of this alone. If we had good parents, good friends and good role models to begin with, we probably wouldntve fallen into these pits, but here we are. The good news is that youre not alone anymore, you can talk about this here and get help from some of us and give help to others. Just being here means youre on the road to recovery.

Find an accountability buddy and if possible, someone you can eventually meet up with. This can be tough for guys like us and it can take courage to really be real with someone in your life; you dont have a guarantee that theyll help you and take your trust seriously. People get hurt. But the only sure thing here is that if you stay silent and alone, then you lose, 60% of the time, every time.

 

I'm quite similar to your condition, and my main motivation here is to fight ED. I'll need 4-6months nofap to recover according to youtube "The Great Porn Experiment"

My suggestion is like this:
1st, save money before starting nofap challenge. You'll rather get a paid handjob than to masturbate, it'll make a whole lot easier for you to survive nofap period.
2nd, block all your access to porn, block all the sites, delete your porn and free up your hard disk, trow away all physically porn material.
3rd, stop thinking about girls or porn in early stages, ie. you can really stop or distract yourself before the urges getting too strong by forcing yourself going outside, workout etc. Try notice this emotion, and stop any activities that links your brain to porn.

My first experience at massage center sucks as well, the kind massage lady (a middle age women) told me to save my money because I couldn't erect at all during the handjob, (that's the 1st time discovered my ed).
In the following occasions , I did react to a certain level to handjob, by younger and more attractive massage girl, but whenever I tried to have real intercourse, I failed miserably(I've tried 3 times, refusing to admit my ED).
I graduated from all boys high school before going to college, never have a girlfriend and feels socially insecure, low self-esteem etc, I'm trying to reverse all the above , following my own words , committed to fix my PMO issues. Today is my Day 7, only masturbate one day out of twelve day ago. Let's fight this together.

 

PMO no more than 1 time per day is not a very serious level of addiction, you'll be expected to cure from PIED by around 2 months of nofap

 

Hey buddy.
To be honest they are not big problems.
The first thing you need to get comfortable with is the idea of not having a girlfriend or sex. They are not the most important things in the world. What is your purpose in life? You should think about how you can contribute to society.
When you are focussed on achieving your goal and when you have taken your mind off sex, your body will transmute your sexual energy into achieving whatever it is you want to achieve, rather than wasting it on meaningless sex. Then girls around you will become attracted to your focusness and even approach you to try to get to know you.
Good luck

 

Hey man, stay in there.
I just searched for phimosis and ended up here. I have that as well and I'm 31 years old. I felt embarrased to go to the doctor all through my teenage years, then I was scared i couldn't 'O' if I had an operation or something in my 20's. I'm sure it's directly related to my PMO addiction though and my dick bends to one side - might be another consequence of too much j/o.
My point is.. none of these things matter. No girl has ever told me that my dick is weird (though I've always thought it was) - they're all pretty weird if you ask me. I don't know, might start a phimosis group on here or something. Don't know if this is any help at all, just never talked to another guy about that before.

I see you're 3 days in - keep going man. Are you still on the weed as well?

 

Alright man, answered your message about the other stuff. I'm on my first day, so yeah, see how it goes.

 

hey bro,

how are you now?

are u already heal from pmo addiction?