Porn as a Substitute for Relationships

DISCLAIMER: I am not advocating the substitution of porn in place of relationships. I am asking for your opinion of this subject.

There's been a trend in the past decade for (mostly young) men to substitute porn in place of relationships. They claim that porn is free, always available, and can perform whatever you want whenever you want it to. On the flip side there are many drawbacks to porn use that I'm sure you're already familiar with. Despite relationships taking time, effort, and resources (unlike internet porn); they are more fulfilling in the long run. What are your thoughts on the topic of porn versus relationships?

 

This is the best summary of porn's effects I've ever seen. Porn is NOT a substitute for a loving, committed relationship. It's sad when so many guys my age would even think about watching porn instead. What's even worse is that porn has been so normalized in our society that it's expected that every man watches it. I was at work yesterday and I heard my coworkers talk about porn. They were debating if watching porn in a relationship is cheating or not and what platform(s) do they watch it on (e.g. phone, tablet, computer). They chastised one guy who watched porn on his desktop. I'm typing this post on my desktop next to the trash bin with all my crumpled tissues. I'm reminded of all the hours I spend fapping in front of this monitor. Porn is harmful regardless of the platform you watch it on. I didn't chime in to the conversation because they would probably think I was lying if I said I didn't watch porn. If I told them I quit they'd wonder why. Fortunately they did not discuss their favorite genres, but I reckon it won't be long until that's no longer taboo. When I'm in college the last thing I want to listen to is guys talking about porn as if it's TV. Well it is acceptable to talk about shows that contain pornographic elements such as Game of Thrones but I digress. Once I further myself in my reboot I might speak up about porn's effects if the subject arises.

 

On behalf of all nofappers: I honestly don't care if you prefer porn over a human being. If you want to lock yourself in a room and PMO 24/7 that's fine with me. I'ts your funeral. Even a bad relationship can provide a learning experience. Addiction to PMO provides nothing but guilt, loneliness, depression, and a myriad of other negative things.

If you still want to continue fapping to porn despite all the aforementioned consequences, go ahead! Your decision isn't going to affect me or anybody whose achieved or achieving success. There's no use arguing with someone who refuses to do nofap. More benefits for us, I guess...

 

It bothers me when guys watch porn behind their partner's backs thinking it's harmless. They say they only watch it when their partner isn't avavailable/doesn't want to have sex. They say it's because they have a high sex drive and they need an outlet for release. [Hopefully] We all understand that this is complete bullshit. First off, you don't need to give in to every single one of your cravings. If you're in dire need of a release, just MO without porn or fantasy. Second, high speed pornography doesn't provide a legitimate release. The dopamine received by seeking new forms of porn overrides any feelings of satiety. This is what leads to addiction. Finally, porn makes sex worse because it provides unrealistic expectaions, depicts women as nothing more than objects for you to get off on, and in extreme cases sexualizes violence. Porn companies want us to believe that porn provides a healthy means of release and can spice up your sex life. In reality, porn leads to sexual dysfunction and perverted desires. Also, watching porn with a partner just makes sex worse. There are thousands of personal stories on this webite alone about men and women with ruined personal lives and relationships with friends, family, and partners due to porn addiction. Whoever voted for porn over relationships has either a) just had a nasty break up b) unable to get a girlfriend or c) a troll (most likely).

 

The poll was asking for what you prefer. I knew it wasn't necessary, but I thought it would be interesting since this thread is about people who consider porn as a substitute for human relationships and why it doesn't work.