Porn affecting my sex life--advice and encouragement please!

I have used porn for many years now, and have unsuccessfully tried to stop several times. I've been seeing a great guy for a few months now and I really want this to work. But porn is affecting our sex life. Although I find him very attractive, I'm having a hard time achieving an orgasm when I'm with him. I find that i have to call up images of porn in my head in order to get there, and I hate the idea of not being present with him in what should be a very intimate and erotic moment for us. I recognize I have a porn addiction and need to stop using it. I'm also going to stop masturbating for a while because I'd like to not become so habituated to doing so while fantasizing about specific bodies and sex acts. I'm going to get an AP to help through this, but if you've struggled with this problem, please tell me how you overcame it. I need encouragement that I'm not going to be stuck like this forever.

 

Hi @AscendRestore. I've had some setbacks and a recent relapse with p&m, but I'm not giving up. I'm trying to hang in there. I have an AP who is very helpful. I'm trying to do everything I can to remove all the temptations to look at porn (like staying off my computer unless there's something specific I'm doing--i.e., not just "surfing" the web).

Congrats on making it 49 days (it looks like from your counter). How are things going for you?