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Porn addiction helped destroy my relationship.

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Readytomoveon, May 2, 2017.

  1. May 2, 2017 #1
    Readytomoveon

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    It was hardly the only factor but it was a major factor in me and my girlfriend breaking up. Porn addiction is devastating and i can't even describe the contempt I have for it now. Not only did I lose my girl but I lost myself, I lost who I was and I ultimately almost lost my mind as well. The regret and sadness I have felt over this can barely be described. For a year and a half all I have known is crushing depression and total despair. Finally after so much suffering I decided I simply can't live like this anymore, this site is a godsend.

    The damage is done but I refuse to let my future be like my past. My greatest challenge ahead won't even be staying away from porn, it will be forgiving myself.

    Porn can and will destroy your mind along with your sex/love life. It will take everything from you.
     
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  2. May 2, 2017 #2
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    I truly hope you find your peace in this journey. Keep strong and keep fighting, but be easy on the kid in you.
     
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  3. May 2, 2017 #3
    Readytomoveon

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    Thank you!
     
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  4. May 2, 2017 #4
    Littlelife

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    Oh, this hit me in the feels.
    I'm truly sorry that you've lost your relationship.
    From what I've found out on these forums and in my own life - you really have to hit rock bottom before you can truly make a change in your life.
    This may be your bottom.

    Please lean on all of us here for support whilst you build yourself back up. You can do this and you really genuinely can change your life.

    Keep fighting!
     
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  5. May 3, 2017 #5
    Readytomoveon

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    Thank you! I really appreciate it and sadly you are right, a person often has to reach a level of pure hell before they'll make a major change. I'm living proof.
     
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  6. May 3, 2017 #6
    Silas

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    Hang in there @Readytomoveon the only way is UP! I am sorry it took loosing so much for you to want to stop.
    I'm sending you a virtual hug
     
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  7. May 4, 2017 #7
    Ruttiger

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    Good for you @Readytomoveon. Sounds like you are on the right path. Stay strong!
     
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  8. May 9, 2017 #8
    NoBeatPete

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    Dude, I'm sorry, sounds like rock-bottom. But the only way is up, so I wish you the best on your journey. Go kick ass and take names.
     
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  9. May 25, 2017 #9
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    I know you pain. Porn was a major factor in the breakdown of my marriage. It gets better, I know!
     
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  10. May 29, 2017 #10
    SilverRogue

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    I promise things will start to look up for you man. Porn ruined my first relationship, I ended up breaking up with her because I was uncomfortable with commitment, then getting back together, then once again breaking up for the same reasons. I most definitely attribute that struggle to my porn addiction. 2 years later I definitely still struggle on a pretty regular basis, but I recently started dating an amazing girl and it's been almost 3 months now. I hit rock bottom after that second break up, but through that I found someone who makes me want to be a better person for her and I know you will too. Keep fighting the good fight.
    -Blessings
     
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  11. May 30, 2017 #11
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    Thanks SilverRougue,
    I believe everything happens for a reason. So in a way I'm kinda thankful it happened. it showed me that we weren't meant to be together because we couldn't trust each other. l dont think we were good for each other in the end . still really hurt when we broke up but i wouldn't of found my current partner if we didn't so im thankful for that. if it wasnt for her help with giving it up who knows where i would be.
     
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  12. May 30, 2017 #12
    LivinginRecovery

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    Yep. It effectively destroyed my marriage so I can empathize because I chose pixels over a real-life relationship. Thing is though, we can't change the past however we can alter the future by changing the narrative and jettisoning porn from our lives forever.
     
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  13. Jul 14, 2017 #13
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    Heart braking story man. Sounds like you haven't been having a good time lately. Despair will shatter your soul to pieces, so ask yourself everyday to forgive your actions.
    Keep yourself strong and keep pushing through.
     
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  14. Jul 14, 2017 #14
    Drew140

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    Admitting you were wrong and a genuine im sorry might help.
     
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