PMO vs. O with a partner

I initially put this in the porn addiction forum. I’ve deleted that and move it here. Thought it would be more appropriate here.

I wanted to share some observations and get your thoughts on it.

I’ve been on and off (mostly on) NoFap for several years now. During that time I’ve had a few romantic relationships.

orgasms with a partner are always more impactful than orgasms to porn. It could be the most boring sex with a very mediocre woman, and it would still produce higher highs and intensity than the hottest porn featuring the most attractive girl. I believe this is probably the case for most people here.

Additionally, it is so much MORE DIFFICULT to achieve orgasm with a partner. As a kind of parallel to the above, it could be the hottest sex with a very attractive lady (and while on a very long porn-free streak) and it would still take longer and more effort than to just finish to very short mediocre porn video. And me doing the manual labor doesn’t make it that much easier. This part, I am not so sure is the case with other people.

I am so curious, why are each of these phenomena happening? Why is it both more difficult and more intense to finish with a partner? Is it performance anxiety? Is it fear of judgment? Is it a sense of vulnerability? Is it something more biological? Maybe there are some anatomy or psychology experts here who may know…

I wish I could compare sex before experiencing porn, with sex after. But unfortunately, like most guys my age (late 20’s) porn was my introduction to sex.

this is something I’ve observed for years now but haven’t really had anyone to talk about it with.