Please give me your ED beating stories, i need the inspiration

Mate, this is crazy...its like saying oh i have really bad insomnia - except when i go to bed at night at turn off the light, or i lie down after a heavy meal...
If you are really determined to have a sexual dysfunction, carry on worrying about a problem that doesnt really affect you and soon enough you will have that problem.
Stop worrying you are fine!

 

Shall I test it?

 

Shall I test it?

 

Yes, go for it. When i quit porn a few years ago now, i was afraid i could never use my imagination to feel horny and get aroused. This is where i disagree strongly with nofap, or monk mode at least, a hetero guy, having sexy thoughts about hot women, who then gets aroused and then may or may not M, may or may not 0, i see absolutely nothing wrong with this. Its absolutely a natural thing to do. And your dick likes to be aroused, not hanging like a useless, shrivelled acorn month after month, year after year (if you suck at picking up girls like i do) which is what you get on monk mode. I do this regularly. Think of your dick like any other muscle, ok technically its not a muscle but think of it as such. Use it or lose it. Think how you ensure your arms are strong, you exercise them, i think the way to a healthy dick doing what its supposed to do is to exercise it via self stimulation. Every male animal born with a dick is hard wired to get aroused, so have sexy thoughts, play with yourself, and those natural, complex processes which trigger arousal start to fire up again, and things start getting back to normal.
This is a big part of my change in thinking after on/off monk mode which is just horrible, to completely try and snuff out the sexual fire. That is not healthy, it is not natural. I understand this approach may not suit everyone but it has absolutely done wonders for me and my fella.

 

Another way of looking at it: guy has problems, cant get it up, if he does it is weak, not strong. Nofap says - right, do not touch your dick, dont think about touching your dick, leave it alone. Do not stimulate it, do not get aroused, do not excite it anyway anytime. How the hell is this gonna make your dick hard and strong again??? It doesnt make sense, and for ED, for me at least, it soesnt work.

 

I think it's mostly porn-related, however, some guys start obsessing about it and then they do things such as "testing" their erection and stuff like that (never do that, because porn/masturbation and being with a partner are totally different things so there's no point).

So porn causes it, usually, in the case of younger guys, but being anxious about PIED can set you back as well.

Last time I was with a girl I was pretty nervous but I had zero problems with PIED thanks to doing a lot of NoFap hardmode. In fact I had more consistent erections than when I was 19 or 20 and wasn't watching porn but was masturbating every few days.

 

It worked for me.

Not everything is "use it or lose it". Maybe it's like growing crops in soil. If you're constantly growing crops in one patch of land, you'll wear out the soil and your crops won't be so good. Give the land a rest and the soil will recover.

 

Ok fair enough glad you found something that worked.
Monk mode did nothing for me except give me a horrible feeling that my dick was a useless thing that i piss out of. The less you use it, the less it can be used.

 

Going back to this quote, maybe you're exaggerating a little for effect, but it's okay to get aroused - by accident! Then you just have to think about something else or distract yourself some way until the urges go (or the arousal goes).

I'm not sure if I did much "monk mode" as such. I was just avoiding porn, p-subs and masturbation, and often choosing not to pursue women also (sometimes for NoFap reasons, sometimes for other reasons).

 

No, that quote is what monk mode prescribes, no sexual stimulation of any kind whatsoever. And ive come to realise that is not healthy, it doesnt make you feel manly, it makes you feel pathetic and feeble.
And if you are getting boners by accident, which shows absolutely everything is working fine - why on earth are you talking about ED when you obviously dont have issues with it???

 

I think you may be right! Reading stories about guys who got out of flatline via masterbating!

I may just try to MO with imagination and mutual masterbation with my wife, and sex. Will try in a few days!!

 

You don't have to do it forever. Sorry to hear that it made you feel bad. Maybe some of that bad feeling was withdrawals and that kind of thing.

For me, generally speaking I feel better when I'm not having a lot of orgasms all the time, especially orgasms from masturbation and even more so from porn and masturbation (don't fall into the trap of watching porn and not masturbating either). Sex is good and all that, but too much can leave me feeling a bit "empty".

Getting boners by accident doesn't always mean everything is working fine. These things are complicated and we're talking two different organs - the brain as well as the penis. Some guys can get a great boner for PMO but not for real women. I've been there.

 

I want to get bk to this with my wife too! Thinking about her or looking at her naked would get me rock hard!! Last 2 years have been different story thou, thanks to porn!

I want spontaneous erections and morning wood bk again as well!

 

To some degree. Tbh i was a very mild porn user, vanilla stuff 2/3 times a week so i didnt really notice a huge change. The only thing i noticed was that i started to find *normal* girls more attractive. And as a single guy, technically an incel, when you shut down the porn escapism route you actually have to think about taking action, approaching real girls in real life, joining yoga classes etc...and taking steps to get back into the dating scene which if you have as little self confidence as i do is hugely daunting - but it needs to be done.