Pied with every girl but my fwb

It makes me want to rip my neck off, retreat into a corner, and cease to exist.

TLDR; I watch porn here and there and it doesn't affect sex w my ex/Fwb of a couple years but I apparently can't hook up w anyone else.

Essentially I've struggled with pied in the past and had issues w it before I started dating this girl. Before it got official, the pied would happen sometimes. I noticed that back then with this different girl who was my main, I got to the point where I would always get hard for her. Even if I randomly watched porn which I avoided. But when I'd try to hook up w a random my dick would shrivel up. I was fwb with the girl I end up dating and would get pied sometimes w her compared to my main at the time.

Fast forward I started dating this fwb girl and sex was great. Still had a porn problem. Maybe once or twice a week(big upgrade to old habits) I would pmo sometimes. Ed sometimes(half the time it was diabetes related) but it was very rare. I could almost still be a porno boy as long as I didn't do it too much and i would get away with no PIED. Even now I could watch porn and call her up and it won't matter. I dated this girl for a year and a half almost. We broke up and tbh we still hook up and it's just not official. But whenever I try to link other girls I literally lose erection before penetration. Has to be some sort of uncomfortability or anxiety over it with new girls.

It's tearing me apart and very frustrating to have a sexy girl that I finesse ready and I literally am not able to perform. I SHALL not and cannot resent my ex over it. I've been tempted by that trap. I know I watch porn here and there. And then try to not watch for like a week before I link with any girl that isn't her thinking the mini cleanse will help...it doesn't. Ill be hard while making out until I'm naked. Its so easy with my ex. Sometimes I feel like a cop out like idk if I should just stay away from her to face my problem. I don't chase girlz as much because I'm satisfied and it's not like I don't enjoy sex w her or have feelings. But I must be able to have sex w other women and cant...that's the other reason I don't be chasing as much. Am I completely primed to her because I'm comfortable? It's a fear but I think it a mind trick to not tackle the problem.

I have to at least go without porn for like a month+ to really know. I had been off this site for a while and coming back i just realized the community actually is helpful to have. I just have to vent because it just happened again w a girl. It almost feels like once the porn isn't a problem, the self fulfilling anxiety fantasy will fu k me up. Its all in my head. Anyways, What must be done must be done. Not even a question of the solution. Avoid pmo. It's ruining my life. Has anyone dealt with something similar?

Thanks and be safe,

Frustrated Zimzi