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P giving unnecessary insecurities

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by blinklg, Apr 16, 2018.

  1. Apr 16, 2018 #1
    blinklg

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    I started to watch porn as a teenager, and over time it became a habit and seemed to become a routine throughout my twenties. I’m sure not everyone has experienced this, but I felt like porn had started to have an effect on my long-term relationship (I have been with my partner for four years now). I often felt personally insecure about size and especially about performance in the bedroom because I wasn’t doing the things that were being done in porn. These things started to get to me more and more to the point that I didn’t want to have sex. I decided to stop watching porn a few months ago (at age 28) because I don’t think it is, or should be, reflective of sex in the real world. Since then, I have felt much better and more confident in myself, and I do put it down to having stopped.
     
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  2. Apr 18, 2018 #2
    chiyu

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    I can relate to this. I think the unrealistic situations in P can be problematic in two ways, first by making us self-conscious about our own attractiveness, and second by making us more critical about our partner's attractiveness. What we have to realize is that real sex, in a relationship, isn't about perfect bodies and super stamina skills or whatever - it's about intimacy and connection. Women, however horny they may get, ultimately care more about this romantic energy than all the other physical stuff. I think it's good you backed off the phony influence of P and are rediscovering the natural experience of just being with someone you care about.
     
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