Orgasm while not completely hard

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by modernstore99, Jan 25, 2019.

  1. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    Hello guys. I had sex for the first time after my reboot yesterday, and I am happy to say I kept a full erection for 20 minutes and was able to finish at the end of a 30 minute session. I've never been able to do that before. However, when I finished, I don't think I was completely hard, maybe like 7/10, and except at the very beginning, I didn't have a 100% raging boner. Want to know if this is normal or will get better. If you have personal experience with this I would be very grateful to hear what you have to say. Thx
     
  2. Uruvug

    Uruvug Fapstronaut

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    Did you actually put a timer while having sex? Or did you just made a rough estimate. How long did you use to last before? 30 minutes sounds like a pretty good time, but if the erection was partially lost, that is a sign that there is still some very mild ED. IfII were youy I would keep having sex in the coming weeks to see if things keep improving

    I am actually interested in this thread because one time after a 1.5 month reboot I had sex and even though I had an initial raging hard erection, I noticed that when I went to change positions I slightly lost some hardness, though I was able to get it back again soon after I resumed, but didn't last too long till I cumed.
     
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  3. TheTr0jan1

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    I'd say just keep trying and don't think about it too much as it might cause you to have performance anxiety.
    Maybe you are still healing and need more time?
    Did you suffer with deathgrip and DE before your reboot? Depending on those answers and whether you are circumcised or not, maybe you are still getting back to your full sensitivity which is why you might not be at 100% after a while of sex as its not at the level you are used to?
     
  4. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    @Uruvug well my roommate was coming back in 40 minutes so we set a 40 minute timer. When I was done there was 10 minutes left. I've only had sex twice before, and was not able to finish after 45 minutes both times; the first time I was super drunk so I don't think it's a great stat, but the second time I was sober, lasted about 5 minutes with a full erection, then went to like 70%, and then it declined to like 40% over 40 minutes. I don't really have anything good to compare it to, only the two failed attempts.

    I also noticed that changing positions reduced my erection, sometimes temporarily, and sometimes for the rest of sex. I'm pretty sure this is because your legs are taking in more blood to do work, and this takes blood from other areas of your body, including your penis. Also just certain positions encourage bloodflow to penis (missionary, prone bone, other positions flat on your stomach) while positions with you on your back or standing positions do not let as much blood flow to the penis.

    I also noticed that both times, I felt more sensation, and ultimately orgasmed, in positions when my gf had her legs closed or mostly closed (prone bone, spooning). I think positions like these would be good for guys without a lot of sensation to try because it feels tighter and provides more sensation.
     
  5. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    @TheTr0jan1 I went on a 70 day streak without any stimulation to my penis and no porn; ik it's not the 90 days, but I felt like it was time to have sex again. I could barely keep a boner for 5 minutes during the first two times I had sex, which was about 9 months ago. I likely had a porn addiction and PIED from all the content I was consuming, but I also used to PMO very fast, rigorous, and hard, so I likely had death-grip too. I have like no good sexual experiences to base my feelings off. Hopefully my body is just acclimating to having sex with someone else since I haven't before, and once it's used to it another person I'll be chilling. We're also using a condom bc I would not like to be a father, so that isn't helping.
     
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  6. Uruvug

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    Man, maybe you're right about the blood flow thing, but if you're a young male in it's prime, you should not have any issues with blood flow, unless perhaps if you are overweight and never exercise. Me, personally, I am not overweight and I work out, and I am young, and IIam having similar issues to you regarding erection. I don't think that this is a blood circulation issue, at least not primarily. Maybe in your case it is a matter of training your brain to get used to the sensation of sex, instead of what it has been used to, like maybe heavy masturbation and shit like that. I do masturbate every now and then, but now I make aure to ise lube and try to use a pressure similar to that prodiced by a vagina. I also use a speed of motion similar to that which I use during sex. It might not be exactly the same, but it is pretty close...
     
  7. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    I think that if you masturbate on your back without moving, your body doesn't "learn" how to keep an erection when moving like in sex or switching positions. I am a very fit individual so that's not the problem. The PMO is definitely the problem
     
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