online girlfriend (cyber sex)

Been there man. I kinda had the money and we didn't really have cybersex but I had something going on along time with alot of girls... looking back tho, even tho it was fun just chatting etc, it is a waste of time. If I could go back I would have rather chased girls in real life instead, even tho it might be hard to talk to girls in real life it is alot more rewarding in the end. No screen to hide behind.
In my opinion, meet up with her and have sex... if you cant... then move on. Start nofap and start talking to girls in real life! Just my advice.

 

bro get away from cyber sex and porn and start doing things with people in real life in real time - you are training yourself to have relationships that are not physically real so when you want to have a physically real relationship later you will not be able to - cyber and pmo break the way you normally work and create a bad situation in so many areas of your life -
take from me ive been using porn for 30 years and i can barely get it up in real life but i can get hard 5 times a day for pmo if I were binging on it
get free while you are still young and live the life you imagine
your future deserves a chance!

 

That may be the main point I guess. If you don't quit this cyber thing and fapping, you can't never get a real girlfriend. Just leaving her probably won't fix anything, you will get serious urges to come back so you should finish it in your head. Turn off your PC and go out much more. New hobbies can help. I wish you luck dude.

 

I can understand having feelings for someone over the internet, I've had that happen to me before.

If you honestly love her then I wouldn't break up with her, but I agree that if she doesn't respect you then you shouldn't even bother talking to her in the first place.

If you can meet her then meet her, but your goal seems to be to stop pmo and this is a bad distraction in the process if she acts the way she does.

 

Dude, I should stop the whole cyber stuff and get off the computer if I were you. It's a complete waste of time if you keep up with an online girl that is not showing you respect that you need.

Trust me, I've been through this shit situation before. It was fun at first time, but until the end it didn't get me anywhere. So I said "fuck this" and moved on.

And I agree with fapstronaut1337, it's better chasing a girl in real life.

 

I agree. Step away from the computer and do things in real life. Only use the computer for things that are important.

 

I've been so tempted to try something like this but it would probably fuck me up irl (plus the "girl" would probably turn out to be a man)

 

Like others said, if you can, meet up with her in real life and have real sex and a real relationship with her. If you can't, drop her and pursue real girls in your area.

This is going to sound harsh, and I realize you love (or think you love) her, but she does not love you back. She's sending you nudes when you're telling her you want to quit cybering!? Pardon my French, but that's a narcissistic bitch move. Like others said, she's doesn't respect you. She certainly doesn't love you. You're a play thing to her.

If I were you, I'd give her an ultimatum. Something like "I want to continue talking with you, and maybe meet up in person one day in the future, but if you send me anything meant to tempt me into cybering, I will stop all contact with you." Either she complies and things go well or she doesn't and you block her and every account she uses to talk to you. Then eventually, you'll meet an awesome girl who lives nearby that wants to be with you.

My experience: I was in this kind of situation when I originally found NoFap. We would tell each other "I love you" every day. Eventually, I told her I wanted to quit cybering with her and quit using porn, and she was supportive. She "found Jesus" around the same time and decided to quit also. Our relationship and correspondence fizzled out after that. We were playthings to one another. No real love. Just unhealthy temptation.

 

21 is far too young to be talking like that. That sort of talk comes when you're 40, not 21. I agree with all the others. Forget about the long-distance relationships and cyber-sx, go out and talk to some people you can interact with. Learn how real people function. Heck, do you even know this person you've never met with whom your having cyber sx is even a real female? It's very easy for someone to send you fake pics they found on an amateur P site. I know, I've done it.

I say forget about her and move on with your life. Spend the next few months working on yourself. Do the nofap thing, focus on your career, hit the gym and get fit, and polish up your social skills by talking to real women. Then you might meet a real girlfriend and have a real relationship.

 

Just adding to the fuel here; leave her. Start your nofap challenge and start going to the gym. You'll be surprised by the results that you will get because of all the extra energy and all the workouts, your confidence will build, and you will have an easier time talking to girls in real life. It will take some time but it feels so much better to connect with someone face to face than through a computer screen.

 

Wow all this stuff you guys have said here is so inspiring, even though im not going through his same problem. Thanks a lot, you guys

 

Dude, Pixel is a pixel ultimately.
Get real, Take up some real challenge and overcome this addiction.
There are many more great things to do in life then sticking to the computer for hours for cyber sex.
Apology to be a bit harsh but this is the fact.
All the best and live strong!!!!