Old habits die hard, trigger warning.

This a place to improve our sexual health. Its not a good idea to tempt others to meet up for rendevous off this site.

 

I do not know you, nor your relationship with your fiancé. But what I do know is the difference between good and evil. And because I do not see a question in your post, I presume you want people to react on you, so I will.

Sex, combined with true love, is the strongest emotion a man can experience, and in my opinion the most beautiful thing there is in the world. However, the emotion of sexual desire, can abused like everything else. Every action we take today, determines the course of our life. So ask yourself: Do you want to be a bi-sexual (cheating) guy that only acts on his sexual desires?

If you are not happy with your current relationship, try to change it, or leave her. But please do not let the fact that she appreciates you or not, let you turn into a monster.

Instead of wasting your sexual energy on perverted men on the internet, use it to connect with your fiancé, or leave her and build a new relationship. I wish you love, happiness, and a bright future.

 

First of all, I am no expert in anything, I just see you are struggling, and I hope something I say right now may have a positive impact on your life. I understand your anger. If I were in your situation, I would feel exactly the same. I am someone that values freedom and independency a lot, and above all I have to workout every single day. Luckily, I am still in college, so I have a lot of time during the day to work out. When I worked fulltime or when I did an internship, I did not had that time during the day, so I workout in the evening. That caused a lot of problems. For example, I did not spend enough time with girlfriend, family, and friends.

Because of some books I read, for example ‘Discipline Equals Freedom’, and ‘Miracle Morning’, I started waking up earlier. When I woke up at 5AM, I would do 90 minutes of ‘me time’. I would go for a run, lift some weights, meditate, and read a few pages in a book. At 7, I did everything I wanted to do, had breakfast with the family, and was ready to bring my little brothers to school. When I was done with work, I could solely focus on spending time with family, friends, and my girlfriend.

Yes, it sucks to wake up so early, and it won’t be easy going to bed at 10PM. But it changed my life for the better. It is obvious that you want change. But for a situation to change, you have to change.

If I were you I should try to communicate the feelings you have (her being lazy, needs met elsewhere, sex) to her without arguing. And invite her to express her feelings towards you, and really really listen to her. But who am I right?

I hope you will find a way that works for you. If you ever want to talk to be about something, feel free to send me a message.

 

I am you! You are me! Like you, 6 years engaged, 4 kids in the house, demanding jobs… I’m more of the lazy one and I feel she busts my balls every chance she can. We aren’t physical or even intimate but maybe once every two months. You can imagine after that length of time I’m quick to cum and resentful so intimacy is a struggle. In my mind it’s been easier to justify acting out with other guys in the same boat. Either way it’s not healthy, not right but damn it’s hard not to once you start so be careful. You will find many reasons to do what ever you want to do. Stay, go, be neutral but until you start with your own care it’ it’s really hard to be in it 100% Hope this helps.

 

I have had a sexting problem do. Try to take all sexuality off of electronics. Meeting a random person off a website is not a good idea. Meet women in real life and treat them with respect.