hi guys, I’m trying to figure out if I relapsed or not. Earlier this year, I went on a date, it went well, and we hooked up and I O’d with her. This was right at the beginning of my nofap journey, she was the first girl I o’d with confidence with. On Sunday, I invited her over and we were both aroused but there was traffic so she couldn’t make it. Instead, we ended up exchanging explicit pictures and messages. I wasn’t stimulating my area at all, but while we were messaging, i O’d. It wasn’t as a result of me touching anything, it just happened. Since then i’ve been feeling off and concerned that I set myself back. I was wondering what you guys had to say- as always much love, stay strong, and keep going
Also to provide context: I just looked and I’ve been on nofap for 180+ days actually. Throughout this period I’ve watched no P, not stimulated my own area at all. The only times I’ve O’d have been as a result of a girl touching me and one other time when I was talking dirty with this same girl and it happened randomly. I didn’t feel bad the first time when it happened randomly with this girl, but I felt worse the second time because I knew it would happen and talked explicitly with her anyways.
@Wellbeingfirst What is your goal? If your goal is just NO PM, then nothing to worry about. If you are dating women and you want to have sex and O'd, then do it. This is your Life and you are the captain of your ship. Be simply aware that you stay on track and that you are following your goals. If you didn't watch porn, if you didn't masturbate, and you are letting yourself have O'd, then you are good my friend.
