Not want to be a looser anymore?

Do you want to stop fapping and become the one you were destined to ?
This is step 1 --> Stop telling you are a loser. Because you are.
What you want is to become someone who is NOT a looser, and REMINDING YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE A LOSER IS NOT GONNA MAKE YOU THAT. Always, I mean AALLWWAAYYYSSSSS REMIND YOURSELF "I WANT TO BE NOT A LOOSER " rather than "I AM A LOSER".

No victorious gladiators here in this community achieved victory by reminding them self what a messed up looser they were. Look around you here. There are people more fucked up than you can ever get. Just understand the reality that your problems are not half complicated to those people; and if they can get better, you definitely can too...

You cant change what happened to you till now. Its past tense. So stop weeping for the lost era. Again, no victorious gladiators here in this community achieved sucess by thinking about their past. This is the first step. Learn to let go of the fact that your life till now was a waste. Because no matter what, you cant change that. Its done. The one thing you have in your hands is "now". THIS time. THIS second. THIS moment. ITS ALWAYS THE "THIS TIME" THAT MATTERS.


You must not aim to stop masturbation just like that. No one ever did it , and no one will do it, cuz we are not from Krypton nor we are marvel superheros. Always think, ALWAYS aim with REVENGE, that "Today ,I will be a better gladiator than yesterday" , not "I wont fap ever again". Set the target so that you can achieve it. Dont expect a KG student to solve vector calculus problems. Put the bar only high enough so that you can jump it. Start to understand your problem. Find the answers to questions like these. (These were mine, find yours yourself).

• How much time you spent on porn a day?
• Do you use porn daily or frequently?
• Is it like one day 0 porn, next day full porn?
• Why do you like porn?-because you dont have a gf?-or are you sad that you just havent had sex yet?
• How much time of porn viewing it would take for you to finally decide to masturbate ?

When I started it was like 15 hours of porn before i finally fapped. Yes, FIFTEEN. This number is a very important thing. After I calculated this number, I decided to reduce this number. I started to note the clock when watching porn and tried to reduce my porn watching time, that's how I improved. I learned to not end up with a browser window of 1000 porn sites open at same time and waste more time. You start watching porn and once a point is reached there is no coming back. At this point, your success in fighting porn addiction is to FORCE YOURSELF TO RELAPSE THAN TO RESIST IT, BECAUSE YOU WILL END UP WATCHING MORE PORN. Trust me when i say this, ITS GONNA BE DIFFICULT. All of your senses will be whispering "im not satisfied , dont fap, watch more porn instead". But you MUST relapse, ending that "porn-session" earlier than you would normally do. After cleaning up, calculate the time from when you started watching porn to the relapse and compare it with previous readings and feel proud that from previous porn-session, you saved ___hrs of watching porn because you fapped early. Trust me , when my 15 hrs came down to 9 , I was overjoyed... It was still a failure because I relapsed, but I saved 6 hrs or watching porn... 6 hrsss...!!! That was a great success for me. I was proud. Later I reduced it to 3, and 1. The funny thing is that now i learned to watch porn in a much more efficient way... hihihi that is, i learned how to not end up with 100 tabs of porn , waste 15 hours and finally fuck myself up, but to keep the tabs like 2-3 and waste very little number of hours with porn, and to still fuck myself up. Like you, I too miserably failed when I set my target to "stop fapping" , but I was having great success when I put my target "reduce time wastage by fapping early". Slowly i grew resistance to porn. I learned to filter the porn clips i saw there by reducing the number of browser tabs very very much. It was like 8-9 tabs when i started out, but came down to 2-3.


"Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery,
But today is a gift.
That is why its called 'present' "
(yes, its kung fu panda shit, but its truth)

Use your gift properly.

Adios

 

become the gladiator you were meant to be

 

what is your personal top score ?
mine is 13. im on 8 right now.
77 is wrong. i didnt reset it properly. i havent used nofap for a long time and yesterday when i logged in seeing the number 77, i was sad.. if i really did the hard mode that number would have been my actual victory

 

thats a nice number man... keep up..
im on nine... i hope this time i go beyond 13... :/