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NoFap Relapse Problem

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by MysterMagi, Mar 25, 2014.

  1. Mar 25, 2014 #1
    MysterMagi

    MysterMagi Fapstronaut

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    My problem with NoFap is that I've discovered I'm not that interested in females anymore. I'm turned off by them when it comes to relationships and sex. Perhaps it's due to my last bad breakup over a year ago and the other things I have gone through with females since. I'm just not seeing any attraction towards women anymore.

    Could it be because I've stopped fapping and am no longer trying to get with a woman to take place of my hand? I am positive I'm not into men (I never have been in my 27 years of life), so that's definitely out of the question.

    I feel like relationships and sex is what society is telling me I have to do and it's driving me insane. I'm very angered by all of this.

    Now, when I see any type of romance or sex in films I am turned off completely. I noticed I'm closing my eyes during those scenes, especially when there is kissing. I'll admit I've looked at porn while on NoFap, but I felt disgusted by what I saw. Porn just doesn't work for me anymore (which is one good thing to come of this).

    I actually relapsed today (porn-free, mind you) to see if there was any feeling at all and I didn't really feel anything sexually - no fantasies or anything of that sort (just the usual fapping-out-of-habit feeling).

    I plan to restart and continue my NoFap because I feel it's a rebellion thing as well as a health thing. Living without a partner or doing anything sexual is fine with me, but I am still confused. Could there be something more to this strange feeling of my lost attraction towards the opposite sex?
     
    MysterMagi, Mar 25, 2014
    MysterMagi, Mar 25, 2014
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  2. Mar 26, 2014 #2
    Phoenician

    Phoenician Fapstronaut

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    I am no expert. I would say that if your breakup was really that bad its kind of normal for you to be turned off on relationships. Maybe you haven't faced some feelings enough or worked through some things? Maybe you are just somebody that has to connect in a different way? I would ask myself; do I want a relationship? If you do maybe start out by just making some friendships first, or solidifying already existing ones. If you really don't want to have anything to do with the opposite sex maybe just continue on your life path and concentrate on what you're interested in. And remember you don't have to make all your relationships the way you see in movies or feel the way society tells you. Talking about it is good but for real answers to guide in a more direct way maybe its time to think about seeing a therapist or psychologist. I would say too just remind yourself you are in control of your decisions and who you choose to let in your life and as long as you're not hurting yourself or anybody else there is no need to be angry at the social norms just ignore them.
     
    Phoenician, Mar 26, 2014
    Phoenician, Mar 26, 2014
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