Hi everyone. I am 27 years old man. I live in EU so English is not my primary language. I am christian from my youth but started M in 10 and P in 18. I am devout christian and I always felt bad about this. To this day only about 4 people knew about this but I am not in contact with any of them now. It is my big secret. I really started working on quitting 2 years ago. I found NoFap 1 year ago and found it amazing! I have a fiance which I plan to marry next august (2017). We are desperately in love with each other. None of us had ever sex before and we will wait with it until after wedding. I am already on day 30 hard mode, which will be in few days my longest streak. I plan to never return to PM. I am seeing positive results in my life already, but I also have lots of question which I have no one to talk. I have a plan to talk to my fiance about it after I talk about this with reputable church member. Current questions: 1. In the beginning I often had severe blueballs just date where we were holding hands and occasional hug. Now I don't get them even when we play with each other hands and patting. We don't kiss or touch sexually. I get them sometimes but they are not so painful as before. Can you explain this? 2. During this year usually after few days of abstaining I always got morning wood, nocturnal emission and sometimes also wet dream. I am surprised, that I am already on day 30 and none of these occurred so far. How long do you think I will wait? Why didn't I get it? 3. Last couple of days I felt really close to my fiance and really enjoyed it. I am curious about flatline. Maybe I am past that, but I did not felt like what I read here. Is it still in front of me, or will I avoid it? 4. I also don't experience cravings or urges. Also no need to look at P. I can always go away from it now, which I like. I couldn't resist so easily before. Am I cashing on my previous streaks? Thank you
@meenee welcome to nofap. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. I am not sure how much my answers will help you but I am going to give them a try 1. In the beginning I often had severe blueballs just date where we were holding hands and occasional hug. Now I don't get them even when we play with each other hands and patting. We don't kiss or touch sexually. I get them sometimes but they are not so painful as before. Can you explain this? I never had blueballs and only some people report it and it varies person to person. From what I read on this forum if they are not causing issues don't pay attention to them. 2. During this year usually after few days of abstaining I always got morning wood, nocturnal emission and sometimes also wet dream. I am surprised, that I am already on day 30 and none of these occurred so far. How long do you think I will wait? Why didn't I get it? I didn't have sex in last 7 months and didn't masturbate either but I don't have any wet dreams either. I used to have them when I was young and in the recent past there were a couple of instances I came close but I woke up. I think there is no hard and fast rule about this. Also I don't think there is any real research on these things. Whether you get wet dreams or not your semen is always leaking unknown to you. 3. Last couple of days I felt really close to my fiance and really enjoyed it. I am curious about flatline. Maybe I am past that, but I did not felt like what I read here. Is it still in front of me, or will I avoid it? Flatline usually comes relative soon after you start rebooting. Again this varies from person to person. 4. I also don't experience cravings or urges. Also no need to look at P. I can always go away from it now, which I like. I couldn't resist so easily before. Am I cashing on my previous streaks? Rebooting is different for different people and past attempts definitely shape your current experience. I think having a girlfriend in life always changes things may be you are just having a good time with your girlfriend and you are content with it. When people's minds are occupied with something fun they usually don't have a desire to watch porn. I know I have given generic answers but I think overall you are doing fine and there is nothing to worry about. I hope you will continue on with your reboot. I wish you good luck.
