New to this, help? 18 years old

Ben,

Just keep reading and learning here at NoFap, then apply what you learn. If you have specific questions or problems, bring them back for help.

 

Like mv said, keep reading, especially the stuff that talks about how porn effects your brain.
Keep visiting this site, it's a great resource full of people who have gone through this struggle, and many (like me) who still are going through it. Also the panic button is great for an effortless motivational booster.
Identify your triggers. loneliness, frustration, boredom, etc... and then avoid them when you can and be prepared for when you can't.
The best piece of advice I can offer is do everything with a purpose. If you're studying, study. If you want to watch tv/go on the internet plan what shows to watch and websites to visit, and if anything gets too intense turn it off and walk away.

I hope to see you around on the forums.

 

Welcome in our familly bro, now you are part of us. The basic thing is: no porn, masturbation and orgasam. Use multivitamines, some kind of sport and meditation. One day you will be good. With luck bro

 

Some more tips: This sounds corny, but take it one day at a time. Each morning when you wake up, promise yourself that you aren't going to fap that day. Then say it out loud several times. A long challenge seems daunting all at once, but just one more day is much more manageable. Then deal with tomorrow tomorrow. There will be strong urges, but they lighten up with time, and you learn better how to deal with them. I find it best not to get stressed out fighting them, but just relax in the strong determination that you aren't going to give in, and each one will pass quickly enough. After all, there is a certain tingle in an urge. Since that's the only tingle you're going to get any time soon, they're not all bad! This isn't about not getting to fap. It's about finding enough things to like in not fapping and enough things to love about yourself when you don't fap, that you won't even consider giving in and fapping. The right attitude is the key: Make up your mind that you're going to stop fapping and like it.

 

It's up to you.You choose the challenge according to your need.Nofap without any sex or sexual release is what's called "hardmode".

 

Yeah, it's up to you. I'm quitting mostly for religious reasons so I'm on hard mode and would recommend it. If you decide not to I would at least avoid hookups since the point is to stop objectifying women.
Again, I would suggest hard mode for religious and practical reasons (stds, teen pregnancy, commitment to someone you may not be ready to spend the rest of your life with, etc...) but ultimately it's up to you.

 

Ben, I note that you have not mentioned any porn addiction, but you have shown an interest in NoFap and have written of wanting the results about which you've heard so much. If you don't have a porn addiction, and you want to stop end fapping as an experiment in self-mastery or to receive the extraneous benefits, I suggest hard mode, because cutting out all release is the real challenge.

In the case of an addiction that needs breaking, it all depends on what's your addiction and what's your goal. One guy might be addicted to masturbation to porn. Another might be addicted to the pick-up or hook-up scene. The women that he uses are his porn. Same thing! Just as the porn addict moves from plain vanilla porn to the raunchy trash to the totally bizarre as he becomes desensitized and needs stronger stuff for his kicks; the other one moves to more serious risk-taking (unprotected sex, STDs, risk of pregnancy, prostitutes, married women, experimenting with his sexuality, etc.) to find his ever-bigger kicks. For instance, a married man for whom masturbation to porn is harming relations with his wife needs to quit it, but he doesn't need hard mode, because the more he's with his wife the better. However, if porn addiction is just one facet of a wider sex addiction, the man needs to stop it all, rather than just switching from screen porn to participatory live porn.