Hi everyone. Been watching porn from age 12 and started masturbating by 16. Daily when I reach home I just drop down and masturbate in my bathroom. Couldn't stop from then! Every single day! I tried cold turkey but didn't work at all. I am 19 now... And I feel I have wasted many of those hours down the drain... My body is feeling weak and my vision especially my right eye is getting blurry. Totally freaked out. I'm doing it despite knowing my body is getting worse. Having cold-like flu for the past three months. Going down in my studies and college projects. My whole life is spiralling down !!! Please help me. I have just relapsed! P.s. I haven't used nofap since a year or so.
Read and watch videos from yourbrainonporn. Also visit nofap regular and read success stories and what others still in recovery are going through. This way you will keep motivated and inspired. We are here to help. You have taken the first step which is recognizing you have a problem and wanting to do something about it. Good luck! PS- avoid porn at all costs! This is the main problem you are recovering from. If you look at porn you are not giving your brain the therapy it needs to heal. Stay strong!
Thank you for replying! How to avoid porn? How to develop will power? These are the questions aching in my mind!
Those are the easiest questions to answer, yet hardest to accomplish! For example, I like gaming a lot and I'm also into cars. Whenever I feel urges I just try play a game or go for a drive with my friends. Trust me the more you think about looking at P the more likely you are to relapse! Just throw it out of you mind as soon as you can and you will see your brain will "leave you alone." It is hard to know O is just a few strokes away but this will get easier as you get better at casting the thought from your mind.
Hi, I'm started P at age of 13 and currently 23 and much like you almost not a single day I didn't PMO, my habit on using P and MO probably worse than you. But now I could get away from PMO without any urge to commit it back so far (well only 7 days). Anyway what you really need to do is to made up your mind and you actually mean IT!!! A day prior to my NoFap I did watched P and study how it affects my body; and yes it is, Just staring on the P for several minutes even without MO gave me strange lethargy. Also cut down internet usage could help. And think of the positive changes of quitting PMO and feel it everyday. YES, FEEL IT and if possible, write it down on your journal. There's no way you would want to go back to old route. Life is so beautiful.
I agree with Cockyau, keep a Journal!!!! It will help you to be accountable to yourself and to see all your progress down the road, and that will be helpful when you feel the need to relapse.
MO was nearly every day from the age of 13 to 33. PMO or cybersex-MO from 15 or so. I'm 320 days clean since M. There was a wet dream a couple of months later. I intermittently fell back into some substitutes a handful of times in the early months, but never with M or O. Almost a spontaneous (hands free) O one time, and that did wake me up to how dangerous they were, and I was able to stop then, or very shortly after that. In the earliest days, my biggest strategy for overcoming urges was removing myself from the situation. When it was bad (I had shakes and all kinds of withdrawal symptoms) I would leave the house, and stay out of the house until the danger passed. That was really successful. I would also remind myself of what I was going to feel like afterward. Avoiding that feeling was powerful motivation.
First of all, thank you for all your replies. Didn't PM.. Till now.. O is out of question since I am only 19. @nofapnoworries Positive distraction is the key, I think.... I just discovered that I was watching psubs for the previous year because of low speed internet... Does that count as P. Also now the urge to M is so high. Is M without P out of question? @Cockyau and @Mlope921 Started writing a reboot journal.... @AllanTheCowboy Will remove myself from the position which leads to "IT" and avoiding the aftermath feeling!
Hey everyone! Sorry for not replying from 13th May... So here is what happened. I relapsed and fell into the vicious hands of fapping and was doing it to the extreme like 10 times or more.. Put on weight. Totally depressed On 30th of last month, after fapping, I had a sudden moment of enlightenment. Then realised that key to succeed is will power. I researched on the web for developing will power and self control. Started doing new things like, 1. Meditation 2. Exercise 3. Reading books... Felt different this time. Got a new motivation, the car of my dream: the Lamborghini Gallardo. So I decided that if I were sincere in my work without fapping it may be possible for me to own a Gallardo... Didn't fap till now. Feeling great... I am having more time with my college exam prep.
Great man! Lots of love and support to you! Never let the feelings of defeat have the final word! We're not gonna be ruled by these lowly desires! Remember: YOU ARE HUMAN! <3
