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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Aaron Moore, Nov 5, 2017.

  1. Aaron Moore

    Aaron Moore Fapstronaut

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    I was a virgin up until about 4 weeks ago.

    Prior to that I masturbated easily 2 - 3 times a day and always with Porn.

    The porn addiction became so bad, I'd feel lost without it.

    Well it wasn't until it came down to actually having sex I had a really hard time getting an erection.

    If it stayed erect long enough for penetration, I would soon lose it.

    It was like a combination of the porn addiction and death grip.

    I did some researching online and came across nofap, I've never heard of this before, so I just need a few pointers.

    I am so used to masturbating I often find myself just touching my penis.

    Not with the goal to ejaculate, just more of like self comfort.

    Is this allowed on nofap? as long as there is no porn and there isn't a desire to ejaculate?

    Or is it completely no touching the penis unless the obvious, using the bathroom etc.

    Also, if the point of nofap is to retain semen, what happens when you are actually going to have sex?

    My main goal with nofap, is not only to quit porn but to actually be able to perform as I should when it comes to sex with a partner.

    I'm not looking to have like a 1 year semen retention streak, but to stop fapping all together.

    I hope I'm making sense and any advice given is much appreciated!


    Thanks in advance.
     
  2. Alex King

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    You have PIED and Death Grip because of your extreme addiction. You need to abstain to heal.
    Don't touch your penis even if you're not going to ejaculate. That is edging.
    The goal of NoFap is not to retain semen.
    It is to break an addiction.
    The reason people abstain from orgasm is because it is strongly linked with their porn and masturbation addiction. Normal sex is not possible.
    Delete your porn, install a blocker. Stop it completely. Don't touch your penis unless you're washing it.
    Eventually you will be able to have normal sex.
     
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  3. Alex King's answer is pretty much spot on. No porn and no desire to ejaculate, but still masturbating is what we call edging. And you can't guarantee that when you edge, you won't end up being tempted to ejaculate. I would avoid touching it at all except for hygiene matters, it's uncomfortable the way it's positioned, things of that nature.

    The point of NoFap is NOT to retain semen. If so, this would mean completely abstaining from all forms of sexual pleasure and this includes activities with a real person. Some people do not choose this and many report having healthy sex lives just from abstaining from porn and masturbation, but not necessarily orgasm. So as far as I'm concerned, you can have sex, just not with yourself. That's the point.

    Some even say that masturbating is fine, just don't do it to porn. It's up to you to decide what you want to abstain from. If you feel that porn and\or masturbation is interfering with your life in a negative way, then abstain from one or both. With time, and it could be a lot of time, you'll be able to have sex normally.
     
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  4. Aaron Moore

    Aaron Moore Fapstronaut

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    I really appreciate both your responses.

    What you said makes a lot of sense.

    Just abstain from porn and masturbation and things should return to normal.

    The only thing I'm concerned about is I'm now currently on day 2 of no porn / masturbation.

    My mind constantly races thinking about sex.

    Being quite young also means my hormones are all-over the place.

    All I can think about now when I see a woman is having sex with her.

    Even women I'd normally consider unattractive.

    This is worrying me a bit.

    Are you meant to feel this way on NoFap? or is something not right with me.

    Also for the past two days I've had very vivid dreams, where I'm having intercourse.
     
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  5. STAR DUST

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    YEAH BUDDY MAKE THE COMMITMENT NOW TO NEVER PMO AGAIN. AND NO MASTURBATION. ONLY FOCUS ON KARREZZA SEX! TRUST ME!
     
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  6. Many guys here experience different things during different parts of the streak. For example, I have the opposite "problem" you have. When I'm less than a week into a streak, my interest in women takes a hit. Pretty girls are still quite pretty, but ugly girls, bah. I couldn't care less.

    When I'm about 3 weeks into a streak, even an ugly girl can seem almost enthralling, though I'm trying to control that. :p

    The dreams are referred to as wet dreams. They can appear seemingly randomly, but don't worry about them. In quite a few cases, they can end with you having or have already had an orgasm in real life, but this is okay. That is not a relapse. You weren't intentionally masturbating/looking at porn and you can't control whether you have a wet dream or not.
     
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  7. Aaron Moore

    Aaron Moore Fapstronaut

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    That's good to know, I wouldn't want to have to reset my streak over something I couldn't control.

    I'm currently on day 3 or 4 (can't remember lol)

    It's very difficult. I work in retail and I'm constantly surrounded by women.

    Both very attractive and unattractive.

    The desire to have sex is unreal. Not to mention when a few of the women I work with always flirt.

    I've noticed a few more 'looks' come my way since nofap.

    Women that wouldn't normally look my way now appear to want to engage in conversation with me.

    I've no idea why this is, maybe because I'm abstaining from orgasm I'm more sexually aggressive? if that makes sense.

    If only they knew what goes through a guys head on nofap...

    I appreciate all the responses. Really helping to keep me motivated.
     
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  8. vxlccm

    vxlccm Fapstronaut

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    Just wanted to validate that you're absolutely in the right place. This community is almost more against pornography than other things, as a whole. But, you will find a great many that respect your goal to abstain from M as well.

    The habitual touching is referred to as edging around here. And, I'd definitely encourage you to work on that, as well. Just to steer clear of the danger zone and start thinking along other trains of thought.
     
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  9. Aaron Moore

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    Yeah, I've been really working on the edging and so far on day 4 of nofap / edging.

    I've even completely abstained from looking at any type of porn or sexually provocative images.

    Thanks to everyone for all the support.
     
  10. The increased attention from women is very common for guys doing NoFap and is both the motivator and the trigger. Typically, when you're abstaining, you're more confident and happy. You speak more clearly, you stand taller, some report their voice getting deeper, etc. You just gain some sort of odd "sexual aura" and women pick up on that.

    Will you consider making a journal at some point?
     

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