Hi everyone its been about 2 weeks going onto 3 with no PMO. Im feeling more confident, happier, and some days it gets hard but for the most part i feel much better than when i was watching porn. I noticed that women catch my attention now, ive getting smiles, small conversations, and all good all around, problem is i dont want to make any moves while im recovering. Is this a smart choice? or should i still go after women?
And part of the reason that is happening is because your confidence level and happiness has increased. So keep moving forward. I haven't made it past two weeks. The third week is the hardest. You will get strong urges to fap and triggers you once didn't realized exist will rear their ugly head. The only advice I can give is if and when you relapse, do not feel so hard on yourself because that can cause you to relapse further. Just brush it off as a mistake then get back on the horse and keep going again. When it comes to dating or having a partner, it's really up to you. Sex is optional with NoFap and it depends on you. Many here do "hard mode" meaning no sex at all while some have sex but only with a significant other.
It is likely that the person most qualified to answer this question is you, but I will try to help by giving my personal experience. Personally I have found that my mentality has changed drastically and my brain has become completely rewired sexually deep into my current streak (today is day 145 of hardcore no pmo) I would recommend holding off until you are sure you have attained the right mentality. Obviously physical attractiin matters, but it is extremely important that your motives are based primarily on making a deeper connection as opposed to lustful mating sex. I have experienced the strong desire to be with someone with sexual intercourse being more of an after thought. In my opinion and experience, reaching the point when you are fully content with yourself and are seeking a partner through genuinely honest and noble intentions, is when you are fully ready to find a relationship and experience long term success and happiness. Hope this helps and good luck.
Appreciate the responses , my intentions are probable more sexual than a strong connection, I'll wait until 90 days and see where I'm at then, stay strong fellas
