Hey All, So my wife and I finally started a 90 day period of abstinence (hard mode) about 10 days ago (reccomendation by therapist). I was doing mostly okay, until last Friday. I think withdrawal started to kick in. I took my wife out for what was supposed to be a nice date. We got there, and the hostess who seated us was obscenely attractive. Now most of the time, I could think to myself “yep, she’s hot. Whatever” and move on. Not this time. I didnt look at her in any inappropriate way or really check her out, but I had to fight off thoughts and fantasy’s the entire night of all the things I wanted to do to her, and even how I would seduce her if I were a single man. Of course I never gave into these fantasies and thoughts. I fought them and was successful, but holy shit they were RELENTLESS in a way I dont think I have ever experienced. A few days later (this morning) I am doing much better, but mostly because I think I am flatlining. Some sexual desire, but not much. I dont really desire porn, sex, my wife, anything. Its actually kind of dark and depressing. I have many of the withdrawal symptoms of low grade tier 1 sex addiction (probably what most of us here have). I am curious to hear how other men who are doing a hard reboot are working through the wild ups and downs, while also trying to maintain a semi-healthy marriage.
It is sex without the O. It is a bonding behavior and helps you and your wife emotionally re-connect. It also helps the process of resetting your brain chemistry away from the instant gratification of dopamine and PMO. Don't scoff, it's much better than it sounds and it could probably help you get through your hard mode a little easier because you will be focusing on you and your wife. It creates a desire for each other and seems to lessen the desire for PMO because of the chemical reset. Here is more... www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/karezza-sex-without-o.70145/
