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My story: Haven’t had sex in two years.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by M-G, Jun 6, 2017.

  1. Jun 6, 2017 #1
    M-G

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    The last 10 years of my life have been so weird. Before that I would have regular sex. When got in a really long distance relationship for a couple of years I had sex only every now and then. I developed a porn addiction during that time. And the break of my long distance relationship devastated me in so many ways. Since then sex has never been the same. I just could not enjoy it as I could before.

    Only every now and then I had sex. At least 50% of them failed because I could not get an erection. And if I had sex it wasn’t enjoyable. Partly because I had too many worries that it would go wrong.

    I had one more relationship with a woman but when the relationship became physically abusive towards me I left that relationship behind. The break took all my possessions, my house and my job and I nearly became homeless. I basically lost everything that I had. During that relationship I had no erectile problems. But afterward I had them again.

    The last sex I had was two years ago with an incredibly beautiful woman. But still I could not get an erection. But home alone just the idea of sex gives me an erection. Very hard ones and very long.

    I don’t know what’s going on. It’s almost like the longer I go without sex the worse the problem gets. I feel numb in my head. Because of my in-ability to have sex plus the previous relationship problems I push women away that show any interest that is more than just friendship.

    I have a desire to have sex but I also miss the drive to actually pursue having sex. Even when I see a cute woman I just want to run the other way. I seldom really get horny about them. But if I do I get really horny it is for a short while and I still won’t take action. Even when I stop watching porn and quit masturbating for months I still lack the motivation.

    Wondering of anyone of you can relate to a story like this.
     
    M-G, Jun 6, 2017
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  2. Jun 6, 2017 #2
    Vilcox

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    2001 I lost my virginity with a girl when I was 16, then it took until 2012 when I got to have sex again. Have not had sex since the end of December 2016.

    So no, I cannot relate to it is to feel weird because of no sex for two years.
     
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  3. Jun 6, 2017 #3
    thorswrath32

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    Its been 11 years for me buddy. During those 11 years i consumed a shocking amount of porn. Despite actually wanting to be intimate with another woman i didn't have the courage or maybe the right mindset to ask anyone out on a date during that period. I also found that i developed the attitude 'what can a woman do for me that porn cant' which is sad really. Ive been free from pmo for over two years and ive said this before, i feel like a shy teenager when i am around women. I think i missed out on a really important part of growing up and learning how to be a man so now at 33 im having to learn the ropes with regards to dating etc because its been soooo long since ive spent any intimate company with a woman
     
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  4. Jun 19, 2017 #4
    phwrancesco

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    4 years for me, and i'm probably younger than anybody who commented this post :)
     
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  5. Jun 20, 2017 #5
    Edin_Rempulse

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    Still a virgin and I am 19, beat that.
     
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  6. Jun 21, 2017 #6
    phwrancesco

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    i lost my virginity at 19, nothing wrong with that
     
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  7. Jun 21, 2017 #7
    Edin_Rempulse

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    By that I mean I never had a girlfriend nor social life.
     
    Edin_Rempulse, Jun 21, 2017
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  8. Jun 21, 2017 #8
    SuperFan

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    Well, then I think we know one big reason why you've struggled with PMO. If you have no social life, aka no friends, you're going to have a very hard time rebooting.

    This addiction thrives in isolation ... which becomes a bad cycle, because the addiction tends to bring more social anxiety, which makes us less likely to reach out and connect with others. But connection is what we need, almost more than anything. So do whatever you can to find an activity group. Make some new friends. Smile at people when you walk by them.
     
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  9. Jun 21, 2017 #9
    phwrancesco

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    you can loose your virginity even without having a relationship bro :)
     
    phwrancesco, Jun 21, 2017
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  10. Jun 21, 2017 #10
    Star Lord

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    It used to be my only worry, then I realised how pointless it is unless it's for actual reproduction.

    I'd rather rag a car down a country lane, or do something truly exciting.

    I have no interest in wanting sex anymore. I'll only be doing it to have children.
     
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  11. Jun 23, 2017 #11
    M-G

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    That's a very good answer. By nature I am a loner but since this all happened it has gotten worse.
    It's time to change so I will take our advise. Thanks!
     
    M-G, Jun 23, 2017
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  12. Jul 13, 2017 #12
    uniqueintheuniverse

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    I SAY I RELATE TO THAT IN A WAY I HAVENT HAD SEX LIKE IN ABOUT 2 YEARS TOO AND ITS NOT THAT I DONT WANT TO ITS JUST THAT I DONT FEEL THE NEED TOO MUCH I ONLY WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEBODY WHO I REALLY FEEL CONNECTED WITH IN ANY WAY I DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO ME BUT I ONLY FEEL ATRACTED TO PEOPLE WHO I KNOW I AM ATRACTED TO THEM AT LEAST A LITTLE IF I NOTICE THEY LIKE ME A LITTLE I DO FEEL ATRACTED BUT NO CHEMISTRY THAN NO SEXUAL DESIRE FROM ME I DONT KNOW MAYBE I JUST GOT A LITTLE OLD ALMOST 40 BUT SEX IS REALLY NOT THAT IMPORTANT WHEN THERE IS NOTHING ELSE I MEAN A LITLLE SOMETHING ELSE ... MAYBE ALL MY LIFE I HAVE ALWAYS BEING LIKE THIS MAYBE ...
     
    uniqueintheuniverse, Jul 13, 2017
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