My Story - DAY 60 (Hard Mode) How I made it including really good tips.

First of all i wanna say that thanks to others who posted on this forum, for the motivation and information that kept me going. Big thanks to thecommunity.

For starters:

For people who starting/relapsing, Just so you know this is my first time/streak ever, i have never knew or heard or done nopmo/NoFap before in my life and i have a Gf, and this is really my first try, and if i can do it, you can also! Anyways I will tell more how i got here and give tips at end of this post.

Before anything else i want tell you that i went through at last 55 days of Red HELL. Before i got here. SO you know it wasnt easy at all. Anyway lets start:

My story:

I m 28years old, and been probably doing this bad habit since 14. and things got serious last 2 years when the habit become full time addiction, at mid of 2016 i started experiencing weird things happening to me. (that i never experienced in my life ever)

-I was losing my motivation to things i loved to do (i thought im becoming old)
-I was becoming weak, panicy and paranoid
-No willpower
-Memory like 90year old man.
-Anxious
-Depressed for no reasons
-Brain foggy most of time
-Difficult to concentrate
-I didnt know who the fk i was anymore..Totally lost when i looked in mirror.
-Insomnia (couldnt sleep no matter what i was becoming crazy (Almost))
-Social anxiety (couldnt look at people or didnt wanna be around people)
-Loneliness (Even tho i have gf.)
-No appetite
-No energy to do anything
-No motivation
-Music wasnt anymore sounding good
-No emotions
-Mood swings

At this time all of this symptoms become stronger and stronger, it become real and it made me so weak, and i was so scared i didnt know what was happening to me because im really fit person, i eat very healthy, and im very productive also, and i excersie reguralry, so i was very upset, cause i dont drink alchohol, i dont smoke, i dont do drugs, im healthy as possible u can get, (So i knew theres something wrong and i needed to do more research)

I went to psychastrist doctor and they said this is depression/anxiety symptoms, so they wrote depression medicine to me.(which i didnt took cause i knew side effects so i was like fk it i rather go crazy then use this shit (cause i knew depression is mostly due chemical imbalance in the brain its not disease) so i had to do more research!

Anyway i was like what the fk? How i can be depressed when my life has been full joy and i have never had trauma and my family really good with me and everything is really good in my life, so its impossible its caused by something from my past, so i knew there still was something that i didnt knew, so i continued my research, for many weeks i made sure my diet is right, and i excersie and so on, but still something was not right, and then at some point i come to cross this NoFap experience. and that was only thing i knew it couldnt be doing I saw people here had some symptoms as me.

So as for me this was huge huge found for me which i actually never knew about and never even knew porn and masterbation can cause all this damage. And this stupid habit was with me since young ages with no bad intention it was just a normal thing at the times when we were young. and it grew with me.

And till this day never anyone told me about how it can change the brain and drain all the energy and motivation/drive from a man. However thank god i didnt found this at age 40, and i did now.


My BENEFITS/Improvments After 60Days:

- HUGE increase in willpower (No more slave to my dick) (i can resist whatever i want)
- More alert/aware (mind clarity)
- Easier to concentrate
- Easier to talk
- Sharper memory
- No brainfog
- Mood more stable
- Better sleep
- Can focus much better (before my mind always went somewhere else)
- More present
- Better person, for my friends, family, girlfriend
- My posture improved alottt, I feel i walk more straight and taller.
- Eyes brighter, i can see somewhat better also
- Skin is brighter
- More creative
- Depression/anxiety non existent (without any medicine)
- Can enjoy food and music
- Motivation alot more
- Energy alot more
- Starting to enjoy gym even more now
- I can lift 50kg from bennch now, before not even 20kg (haha)
- I start to love my self much more, i can look in mirror without any shame
- I can look in other ppl eyes with no shame. and easy
- Social anxiety? haha i can now talk to people for hours if i want to (suddenly so much to talk about)?
- More calm (used to be very angry for no reasons)
- I no longer look at girls like materials, i just admire there beauty (no morre dirt in the mind)
- I love my gf even more now.
- Overall better human being and stronger man.

And honestly i think this is beginning for me still, probably some of the symptoms may change like they come and go, but one thing im sure that no matter what , they will get better eventually, and i can see more crazy improvments coming and life just getting more beautiful!

As Being depressed and living with the shitty symptoms, you will appreciate this feeling more than ever, so for people who depressed and tired, trust me u will be much more stronger than the ones who are not, because u will appreciate this beautiful feeling like none else out there. and once u feel it u wont give up on it, so just stay strong and push, no matter what!


Tips How to deal with the tough days and how to make it through (flatline)

You need to have HUGE reason (GOAL) you must have one! Cause your willpower alone at this stage is really weak might wont be enoug. Remember this part is the real test part of the journey, this will test you to your cores. and if you can abstain like a man, the end is glorious.

Ask yourself: DO YOU WANNA?: Enjoy everything? nature?food?music?becoming smarter?looking better? being successful?loving yourself more? becoming successful? more willpower? master of your own mind? To be what you are supposed to be?

And if your answer is YES, then no matter how shitty you will feel and how hard through HELL you gonna go, just remind yourself of the benefits and the rewards, and you gonna come out on the other side as brand new person, Just Push through my friends! and good stuff will happen eventually.

-My Personal tips to survive-

-No alchohol
-No smoking
-No drugs
-Install adblocks to avoid this stupid triggering ADS. (highly recommended)
-Take vitamins, omega3, d3, C, ZINC(one of the most important ones) we have lost of it alot.
-Healthy diet is a MUST, no sugar, no junk food, if you dont know how to eat (then this is your first problem ( go research and see how to eat healthy)
-Get good sleep ( No matter what u need to do, do anything to improve this)
-GYM (IS MUST if u wanna survive)
-WALK outside
-Meet friends
-Stay with people (to avoid loneliness)
-Depressive days are hardest, but try to go for run in gym( or long walk)
-No edging (not even little half naked pic, even if u saw it , avoid it immediately.) will make ur reboot faster (weaken the old connections)
-Avoid social media (insta,fb, etc this places contain to much triggers)
-Watch motivational videos
-Read or watch how you can improve yourself
-If you have problems then go and read/research how u can fix them
-Read books possibly, stay far from computer/phone if you can (mostly just try avoid things that might want make u go back to ur old habit.

There was days when i counted hours just to make it to the next day, its difficult but its worth it, this a drug in your system and you need to fix this and handle it like a man, ride it like a hero. remember NO PAIN NO GAIN! and Lastly i wanna say

KNOW THAT THOSE BAD DAYS WILL END AT SOME POINT AND YOU GOING THROUGH THEM IS GOOD SIGN AND THE SHITTIER YOU FEEL THE HAPPIER YOU SHOULD BE, CAUSE THE END IS BEAUTIFUL!

This is the beginning for me also, all i can say is stay strong brothers. I hope at least i motivated some of you, we all deserve to be happy and the best of ourselves. take this journey and trust it, you will have no regrets. My plan is focus on myself and my dream. If i can do it , you can also!

PEACE AND MUCH LOVE. KEEP PUSHING.

 

Lol yeah this part actually, i had to explain to her at first, she was like wtf is this, you know girls mostly dont even know about the whole topic about this. so anyway i explained i said i wanna get better mentally and physically and she understood and accepted, and for the fact i want to become successful first and get a wealthy rich life, after i have achieved what i want, then we can do what we want, and she liked the idea, and supporting me fully. I guess you just need give your gf a good reason why. thats all matters, good luck!

 

yes bro, the depression and mood swings are real, during first 55 days at least for me, but now i feel much more stable for 5days+, i guess its sign of getting the chains unlocked probably still beginning of us, and im super excited for next month and further! enjoy ur journey

 

You will my friend, just remember have a good reason in your mind, and remind urself of the benefits, keep urself busy as u can, this also will teach u how to control ur mind, when something stupid appear u need to learn how to shift immediately, once u learn how to shift ur mind manually u will find also its easier to handle urges, as for me i never have had urges cause i dont let my mind go that far, and the more u come on this journey the easier that become, and im thinking at some point my mind automatically will do this for me

 

glad to hear, hope it helped u

 

Yea at the beginning its abit difficult when the memory still so fresh from the damage pmo caused, those will go away slowly, the only thing i can say is keep urself busy, go gym, talk to others and i used this technic for example when an image appeard in my head, and i immediately switched the image to another one for me it was a ferrari car, haha sounds silly but worked for me. its mind gaming my friend, stay strong, annd also this will make u more stronger mentally and physically at the end.

 

Yes bro definetly avoid it, ur mind will thank u, so u dont need fight constantly against urself, i highly recommend do other things, how u can become better and if u have problems go after them and fix them, search for answers, the net is full of information, and like i said first, u need to have a GOAL and work towards it a dream or something, and as u focus on other things u will start weaken those old connections in the brain, and as u do this u grow stronger willpower. good luck!

 

Yes bro feels good to be at this point, and specially when u know things only will get better! keep it up and stay strong!

 

Yeah man, good luck to u, and stay strong, its worth it, trust me.

 

Definetly man. Also as u keep abstain and do other things, ur willpower goes more up and u feel at somepoint really good and when u look at girls u wont even think in the "dirty" way like before. Just keep ur focus on other things in life!