Recently I had a reset, and it was pretty much right after that moment that I knew I had to look around this site for more information. In the past, I'd visit pornographic sites but then not even ejaculate. At first, I thought "Okay. I didn't jerk off so I didn't relapse." Needless to say, I was uneducated here. Because for one thing, what I thought were my relapses were actually resets. And second, even just visiting a porn website is considered a reset or relapse. So the "days without ejaculating" idea was flawed. So now I know this: if I'm gonna get over this idiotic habit, I need to never visit those good for nothing websites period. I also learned that 90 days without porn, ejaculating, and simply looking at porn stuff is the big goal for members here since that's when they start feeling the best. So that's what I'm planning to do. To get to this point, however, this is my plan. 1. Spend less time on the laptop (duh) 2. Do whatever possible to avoid having a wet dream or an ejaculation while in bed. Those for me are fuel to the fire if you will. 3. Keep thinking of and find other things to do. Such as going for a run or look at a book or two. To keep yourself from getting bored. 4. If stressed or worked up over something, stay off the computer until the feelings ore gone. 5. 90 days is the big goal, but in getting there, have your goal be to go the whole week without resetting or relapsing. Keep doing that until the 90 day goal is reached. 6. When on the internet, make sure to have something to do like watch a show or movie without sex or nudity. 7. Keep the penance. For every month without porn crap, I'll let myself have something I'm not letting myself have. 1 month-a big container of mountain dew, 2 months- coffee 3 months-all other sodas. If a reset or relapse happens, the amount of time without these will start over. 8. If an urge comes when online, go to the panic button. 9. Simply come on here at least once a week. This group exists for a reason. 10. Remember the reasons for quitting.
Two more things to do. 1. Only drink one caffeinated drink a day. 2. Keep the tab for this site open while online for quicker access to the panic button if need be.
