my name is Joseph

i've got quite a history with porn and sexting, and while i've tried quitting those particular behaviors before, it hasn't been successful. so here's my attempt to quit in a more structured manner, and hopefully it helps with my penchant for other compulsive behaviors like being overly flirty online with other women. the compulsions have potentially ruined my relationship.

thanks, NoFap, for being on the internet and giving me a community.

 

thanks for the accountability help. it's great to have friends on the journey!

 

i've thankfully managed to avoid sexting much except with my partner, but i can see how some of those tendencies can come out when i get flirty online with other women. i think i've managed to figure out my triggers, but now i'm on to the discipline part where i need to take steps to avoid pulling those triggers.

based on my past experience, the hydra simile is very apt!

 

if i make it to tomorrow, i will have gone a week on hard mode. (i say hard mode, but i am allowing myself the O if my girlfriend and i see each other at some point in the 90 days.) so i'm looking forward to that milestone.

really, i think my best strategy is research and learning. Your Brain on Porn has been vital to my success this first week in large part because it spoke of so many of the pitfalls i encountered during my previous attempts to quit porn and masturbation. now i know that these things are normal to go through, but the payoff of sticking with it is so worth it, and i want it so much. i'm already noticing a difference after almost one week, so i can't wait for 90 days.

 

you keep going on too krishna. and if you don't quite make it just yet, i hope you give yourself another chance. soak in every ounce of progress.