my name is johnathon and I am addicted to fapping

Welcome to the forum. Many of us felt hopeless and depressed when arriving here. Many of the things we may have tried on our own haven't worked and that just added to the feelings of failure. But, recovery is possible if you discover your triggers and apply the advice found in this community.

Addicts use events/images/objects to alter, medicate, sooth, numb, or escape negative feelings. It can be as simple as boredom or loneliness, as serious as childhood trauma, or to cover up a mental health issue such as depression or anxiety. When we PMO we go into a trace or autopilot mode and parts of our brain shut off. For a little while we are pain-free and we feel good. But once we are done and we are no longer in the trance then we feel worse than before. The illness part of our addiction is that instead of stopping and turning to true sources of comfort we turn to it more frequently or watch increasingly more simulation forms of porn to achieve the same feeling. The increasing feelings of shame and guilt only fuel the addiction and gives us even more feelings we want to go away.

Start a journal. Find an accountability partner. Educate yourself at www.yourbrainonporn. Watch this video www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU. Identify your physical and emotional triggers. Develop an emergency toolbox of activities to turn to when the urges strike. Reconnect with people and get real emotional satisfaction from those relationships.

I hope you find the resources you need to overcome this crippling addiction.

 

Hey man. I commend you for realizing you need to make a change and the courage you have to start the escape from your addiction. I know that this experience will definitely bring you closer to Christ. Its literally the only way to overcome it. I know that there is hope for you and one day we all can be clean of this.

 

I would suggest starting small. Line upon line upon line. Precept upon precept. If what you say is true, simply one day of nofap would be a first. Shoot for that single goal. After you've gone 24 hours, you can work on 40. And so on.

You seem to have identified one of your triggers pretty well, simply climbing into bed. You have a habit. Your brain just knows that if it's time to lay down and sleep, it's time for a fap induced rush of dopamine. What plan can you make to change that?

For example, would sleeping in more clothes help, maybe pajama pants, or even belt and jeans. Would having to sleep in the same room as someone help? Would binge watching something wholesome til you simply pass out exhausted help. Or perhaps when the urge hits full force, you jump in a cold shower? Or maybe excercise is your thing, and a huge workout before crashing helps. Experiment upon the word, note what works and what doesn't.

Best of luck and Godspeed brother. Look forward to reading what you learn.

 

Hi @johnathon , Welcome to NoFap

It is a big step if you can understand what is triggering your urges, because this will allow you to be awake and kill those urges as soon as they appear.

I recommend you to create your own "Emergency Toolbox" with readings that can be handy to read when you start feeling urges to screw up.
I can share this post with you with my own Emergency Toolbox, it helped me a lot during the first few months, i had them in my cell and read them every time I started falling down:

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-first-320-days-of-reboot.62938/#post-473978

I wrote some tips in this post that perhaps will help you too:

http://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-that-helped-me-to-start-my-reboot.46617/#post-330318
You can watch some interesting videos which are also very helpful in this post:
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...t-help-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/page-2

I also suggest you to read "Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins, it is a must-read if you are serious about getting rid of this addiction.

Last but not least, I would strongly recommend you to take the NoFap Academy course if you can afford it. The course is great but the best value are the weekly video calls with @alexander (the creator of NoFap and NoFap Academy) and Mark Queppet, where you can chat with them in real life and listen to other guys's stories and problems too.

I hope that all this helps you to fight this shitty addiction.
Let's keep on fighting

Fercho