"My mother is the only woman I can trust": The belief behind a lifetime of porn & masturbation

Is this your own personal belief, or are you simply quoting something you heard somewhere?

 

In terms of an intimate relationship I have found that young women are not trustworthy, this is a general statement and of course not all women are like this but the vast majority unfortunately in my experience... (and good luck trying to find the 10-15% who are trustworthy, they are always taken by better men), it is one of the reasons for my sadness, depression, and hopelessness with dating, relationships, and life in the modern world... to be fair many men are also probably not trustworthy either but since I am not attracted to men I have not paid close attention to this.

 

I understand why you would feel that way and it's not just women who are unfaithful men obviously are too. It's the way western society is now. Being unfaithful on an intimate level has grown substantially since the introduction of the contraceptive pill, which in turn started the promotion of sex as an amusement park ride. We also have both men and women who like the idea of stealing someones partner for their own selfish enjoyment. The western world has lost it's morals and family values, well the ones that it had anyway.

My advise is when finding a partner is firstly not to be focused on looks. If you date or marry a good looking woman, men are going to be constantly hitting on her and many wont care if she is taken. Also she will get tempted if a higher status man comes along who ticks all the boxes. Do you need this stress?

It's hard to find a woman who has good morals and family values these days. A woman who is either religious or spiritual is a good start.

Joining a religious, meditation or charitable group is a great way to meet nice women. Don't bother with online dating, yuck.

 

Totally agree and if you criticize the rampant infidelity, pornography, and sexual behaviors of young people in the west you are automatically a prude.

 

Well we are the enlightened, they are not. However, even if you are enlightened you can still fall into the trap of temptation, which is why many are here. It's easy to see bad, but much harder to rise above it into a better realm of existence.

People take offense to someone questioning their unhealthy sexual behaviors, though you can understand their point of view when someone questions something that they deem to be enjoyable and fun. However, those being questioned rarely see or understand the dangers their sexual behaviors can create.

 

Do you think this could be a cause (one of at least) of your porn addiction?

 

maybe if you were a better men you could trust most women?? Just food for thought not trying to say you're wrong I'm not sure myself

 

Both sides of this would work as they complement each other. Women would rather go for a better than a person without less fascinating morals, ideals and to some extent, appearance. This is how human are programmed to work, almost nothing can be done to change this but at the same time, when you improve yourself, you trust more women and they would also be more faithful to you considering there aren't many specimens out there better than you leading you, to trust more women.

 

The title of your thread reads -"After a lifetime of masturbation and porn". I don't think you can make a decision on it unless you are 100% clean from it's influence on your mind . Why do I say this? Because for some time during my addiction to PMO I did felt the same way. And once more very recently. I don't know where you're coming from on this, but to me the whole thing porn sells or the idea it sells really got to me. For a brief time, I started feeling women as selfish beings who only want sex or domination or that they like assholes only or are secretly masochists etc who only act as saints. I got over it because it clashed heavily with what I had experienced as a person.

If you're coming at this from the dating scene,then people -I say people and not guys or girls both have heavy materialistic instincts or desires,and there is nothing wrong with that,what's wrong is getting purely 100% controlled by these l,letting them influence your judgement and sense of fairness. Guys like girls who are attractive and good looking and so do girls like guys who are physically attractive,atleast initially until you get to know a person. A very loose and bad analogy would be -If I offered you to go for a holiday to the Swiss Alps or Somalia,guess which would you choose? The answer is obvious. All this being said, physical attraction is a factor, but its love,what you share with that other person etc. that makes you being able to spend the rest of your life (more than half a century) with them.

Maybe you some bad experiences with women, maybe you had a LOT of bad experiences with them. That still doesn't speak for the entire womankind mate. Don't let bad experiences,especially only bad experiences make up your mind on women. Don't let porn-something that makes money by portraying women as sex objects tell you how women are. That's like taking lessons on morality from the devil. If you had bad experiences, I only can say -Don't let your wounds turn you into somebody you're not.​

In the end I think it boils down to people-not girls or guys, who are selfish and not selfish. Who are good and bad (and a lot of them grey). You can't expect the good without the bad,light without darkness.

People are flawed. Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for. -Bob Marley said that .

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