My Journey to a 100 cold approaches

Big ups for doing this! Cheers for the reference.

I'm actually trying out the "London Daygame Model" myself too lately. Going direct is very difficult, but there's not a better way to get calibrated than going up to a girl and say that you like her. Embrace the countless ego deaths.

 

These things are not important. If a woman likes you, she likes you. Other than expressing your interest so she understands why you want to talk to her, you don't have to worry about the rest. Sometimes it will work out, you'll have a relationship, sometimes it won't. But don't question everything unnecessarily. Dating is emotional, it's not a science.

I have been approaching women on the street for 5 years. And if you want a good advice, make friends, develop your instagram, take care of yourself and your appearance. Your style, your body, your hair. And learn to express your ideas more clearly. Forget everything you know because you know nothing. Nobody knows anything about dating, everything is a way to reassure yourself. But the thing is you can find an answer and its opposite with arguments that always make sense on both sides.

I have seen so many guys who are able to approach women but have no friends, no job, empty inside. With a life goal of getting as many women as possible. They've been stuck in this for years.

This thing of approaching women can be as fulfilling as it is brain-damaging. Having relationships by approaching women on the street is difficult. It's easy to fall into a need to always have more or to think that if you don't succeed, it's your fault.

On the other hand, if you develop relationships and your goal is to become a better human every day, it is much more fulfilling. Being able to approach a woman you really like and being you is what counts.

 

I would advise against this personally. It's better to close strongly by taking her details. You're the man and you have to make the first move. This also means that you have to be willing to put yourself in situations where it's possible to get rejected.

I know it can sting when a girl doesn't respond to your first message, or worse, when she falls off the radar after you've gone on a date with her. Rejection, blow-outs, flakes and ghosts: that's the price you pay for expanding your dating pool through cold approaching. Most men simply can't handle it because of ego defense.

These "heartaches" are a crucial part of the journey. It can make daygame painful sometimes, I know. That's why so many men give up on it. But these painful moments also end up making you. It toughens you up. Your ego will soften. You will learn that your self-worth doesn't depend on the evaluation of others. You will see rejection as meaningless and even as something positive, for those who don't get rejected, aren't approaching.

I don't expect that you will immedietaly gain indifference towards rejection. It doesn't work like that. A simple forum post can't change an attitude. Only repeated infield exposure can do that. Don't panic when you experience negative emotions. I want you to embrace them, whilst also taking the long view where you realize these gutting feelings are temporary.

 

- Do you approach women you really like?
- Do you want a result or do you really want to meet these women? In the first case it's selfish, and women feel it so it doesn't work. In the second case it's authentic.
- Stop trying to be perfect. You can be loved in your entirety
- Do you take care of yourself every day? Weight training, healthy eating. Does what you think of yourself become more important than what others think of you? If not, it's time to consider yourself. If you can't meet women authentically, your relationship with yourself is not high enough.
- Do you pay attention to your style?
- Make friends, otherwise you have nothing to offer to the women you meet. A guy who is alone in his life and approaches in the street is desperate. It is inevitable. You will communicate a need instead of giving.
- Develop your instagram
- You can also become friends with the women you approach. If in a year you have approached 500 women but you are still alone in your life, there is no point of trying. You're not there to consume indefinitely and move on to the next one. You can for a while, that's cool. But MEET people.
- Nobody will come to applaud you because you slept with 100 women in your life, nobody cares

You need to have a deeper vision of yourself and others if you want to move forward.
I encourage you to keep going, it is already an accomplishment to dare

 

I'm impressed by your balls but I personally would never do this.
For me it's easier to hook up with a girl who I know from a female friend. Via via. Or trough sports, school, university. Or at Events where there is something to do.
Imagine you are a attractive girl and some random dude comes up to you and says: "Hey you are cute" without context.

I have a sister and she told me that what girls usually want, is a guy who has high status, who is respectful, has manners, is a gentleman and who she knows for a while.


Still, you got balls bro. I respect that. I'm excited to see the further progress.