My girlfriend makes me lose focus

This is tough. I'm the wife of a man who, during long stretches in our marriage, hasn't slept with me. Or touched me. Or paid much attention to me. I've been ridiculously horny most of our time together. It doesn't help that he is gorgeous. I've fantasized so, so much. Burning up with desire, some would say. How to cope?

In the beginning it was hopeless. Slowly, during time, I've taught my body how to handle not having sex. Granted I've had more wet dreams than your average teenage boy. And I've cried a lot, out of sadness and out of frustration. But it will get better. I work a lot, and try to stay busy doing all kinds of things. It's hard to concentrate, sure, but you will learn; it's a skill. Sometimes I think of things I don't like about him or ask him to put clothes on. That can help. Over time, I've turned my sexual desire into energy for other aspects of my existence.

Porn is of course a no-go for me, since it interferes with my views on monogamy. I do believe masturbation is okay in moderation, but its not really what I want either. I want my partner. So to answer your question: turn your need for her into energy for other things.