Some time ago I red and replied to a thread about beating ourself up or not. But I spoke some friends about abuse of drugs or else and we got think that, sometimes, these abuses are and actual mutilation. This PMO abuse, has became in our case, the way we actually beat ourself up for not liking ourself enough, for not being proud of ourself. At the question, schould we beat ourself up or not after a relapse isn't looking for the real problem. The question is why do we do this to ourselves and how have we made a habbit... I often thought and helped people telling that being very busy is good to avoid PMO because we would be too busy and would not have the time to think about relapsing. But I thought about it in an other angle, maybe being active helped me being proud of my day and gave be moral strength to willfully avoid P or M. At first, it is true that we have to directly deal with the main wound: stopping PMO, but feeling good about ourselves does only relate to PMO abuse. Here is a list I made for myself of ways I knew to avoid PMO, but I thought it could work in all senses, either occupy time, feel clean and satisfied and simply turn my back around PMO. Ways to reverse the cycle and give me no reason to beat myself up. -1- Get off the computer -2- Clean up your space, room, kitchen -3- Take a (cold) shower, brush your teeth -4- Get your stuff done for tomorrow (lunch, clothes, etc) -5- Meditate, read -6- Go to bed, when you meant to get there, really and sleep -7- Exercize -8- Make lists to achieve -9- Cook for yourself -10- Challenge yourself to socialize, with usual friends or not
Great list. It can rear it's head at any time so be aware of that and don't let it find some headspace to fester
