My first approach... I failed, but I did it!

Congratulations. You're doing really well. It will get easier with time. Way to go

 

Congratz dude! I hope you find your match very soon!

 

Congrats brother! Approaching women is not that difficult and I'm glad you've come to this realization yourself. It is so easy for people to overthink these situations and freak themselves out in the process, but it is the only way you can grow and better yourself in the end.

You made huge progress by stepping out of your comfort zone here. I cannot remember the first time I did this. It was very long ago and I was very worried. It was like I was about to ride a rollercoaster to hell or something. It was such a nervous feeling and for what? Just a polite rejection? Hell I'll take that and try again. You come to realize that rejection isn't personal. It's just part of development. I'm happy for you

Cheers, brother

 

I’m not so sure about that, I find approaching people especially girls to be one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my life. In fact, I find the thought of going to an interview less stressful than approaching a random girl. When you have anxiety it makes you irrational and something as normal as talking to a random person sets off your fight and flight responses. But I have done dating bootcamps in the past basically it’s a group of guys who all have approach anxiety going out with these dating coaches who show us that talking to people is not as hard as it seems and that we have built up this irrational fear. I remember one of the guys saying that I did not like approaching people but when I did the girls usually stuck around and generally wanted to talk. Whereas he likes going over and talking to people but they always ran away. Ironic…

Anyway I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders I very rarely approach girls because I have too many thoughts in my head. The anxiety, depression, stress, ED, work etc… Its overwhelming I am yet to figure out a way to get through all of this noise so that I can be open to meeting people. Funnily enough when it comes to dating apps I do really well because there is no approach anxiety you just start a conversation. This is why in the past I have failed to meet girls and make connections with girls in real life I very rarely pick up phone numbers that way… But through online dating its like the floodgates open. If only I could reproduce that success in the real world…

 

I’m going to try really hard to hit those 90 days. I already feel like going out there and meeting girls and getting my dating profiles back it’s a battle every day… Ideally I want to be meeting girls in real life that is how I would like to get a girlfriend but I know that I always get results from online dating. So after those 90 days I will just use both to meet people and see what happens, might as well use every method possible to meet people because you never know what might happen. I have met some interesting people through online dating its not all bad.

I don’t think I would relapse from online dating so I’m not worried about that really. It’s just another way to meet people if you look at it a different way you could say that meeting a girl in real life could make you relapse if you saw her and did nothing about it and then fapped off later t home.

The hardest part of this for me is the forced isolation of hard mode. I feel like I am not allowed to do anything until I reach 90 days at least.

 

Congratulations man, tiny steps create big journeys, keep it up