In the last trys i did the mistake not analyzing my habit which lead to fapping especially the cue (read atomic habits or power of habit and have made now for every stage (freetime-lust-watching-fab-regret) a step to take me again into the right direction. My fapping timeline: Everytime i am alone at home and am supposed to do something, I think about porn and feel the immediate urge to go to my phone and watch something. Then there starts a small resisting time, where i try to still focus on my task. This after 5 to 10 minutes gets turned down when i suggest myself only to watch films, while arrogantly thinking i could resist to masturbate. I put my phone out put incognito mode on and can feel now already my dopamine rising and my rational voice in my head silencing. Then after checking the newest posts on my favourite websites i want to allow myself for my hard work a fab and go to my room and am now fully hypnotised by porn and cant resist anymore…Then after a small time i realise what i'm watching in a shame that already feels already like pain and hope nobody will ever check any browser history in the wifi router and promise myself to quit even though i will repeat the same behaviour on the next day again My different timelines to avoid porn 1.Every Time i am alone at home and am supposed to do something, I think about porn and feel the immediate urge to go to my phone and watch something. Then i leave to phone in my room and go immediate to to the door grab my keys and go for a walk until i have found again the motivation and discipline to do what i was supposed to do. 2.Everytime…Then there starts a small resisting time, where i try to still focus on my task. Now i know that im not able to focus i put myself some other attraction on probably a film, movie or yt video [no sexualised tik tok] after watching 10 minutes i try again focusing for 5 minutes and then the whole story with the distractions either start all over again or i feel again productiv and powered 3.Everytime…This after 5 to 10 minutes gets turned down when i suggest myself only to watch films, while arrogantly thinking i could resist to masturbate. Then i set myself the goal to complete 100 push ups and 5 pull ups and do them immediately in the same room and make myself a proteinshake and while drinking it writing a post on an online forum that im about to relapse and see other relapse posts and motivate them to not give up, to indirectly motivate myself. 4.Everytime…I put my phone out put incognito mode on and can feel now already my dopamine rising and my rational voice in my head silencing. I tipe in:how to quit porn by life.church and click as fast as i can in minute 18:30. I watch this for 5 minutes turn then my phone down and pray to god. 5.everytime…Then after checking the newest posts on my favourite websites i want to allow myself for my hard work a fab and am now fully hypnotised by porn and cant resist anymore. .I sit myself down and write down before i fab while watching and scrolling through the websites what i feel and how fapping is going to help me in 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days,5 weeks and so on. After that i scream out loud:i can resist! I am a nofapper! I will not fab, because i am not anymore a fapper. 6.Everytime…Then after a small time i realise what i'm watching in a shame that already feels already like pain and hope nobody will ever check any browser history in the wifi router and promise myself to quit even though i will repeat the same behaviour on the next day again. I will write the reasons why i quited down and how i can prevent them and start again from day one and will wash the shame of me and start with strong positive energy and talk myself strong and invest 50$ into a business of a friend (for me much money). I am trying these steps now and would love to hear your steps how you dont fall into the habit loop. My question of today is: What are the exact moments where you always give in and how have you overcome them or how are you planning on overcomming them?
Very interesting post and definitely a lot I can take away from this. For me I’d say the moment where I normally give in is when I’ve typed something up. I normally have no resistance past that point so I put a lot of pressure on myself not to do that instead of “just looking”
