MY ENVIRONMENT IS WORKING AGAINST ME

One of my greatest methods for avoiding porn is reducing my internet usage. So a job that requires internet would definitely be challenging for me. But resources come wuth work sometimes. For instance, if a job is paying me enough money, then I may consider paying for local therapy in my city. The main NoFap website also offers support groups.

 

You might think about changing jobs then. My husband retired early (52) just for this reason. He was on the computer too much and had a high stress job. Read Tao’s journal, he too, had to quit his job and start a new career. There is only a 5% success rate of long term recovery for this addiction. 30% for many other addictions. So, that tells you how difficult it is. You can be successful, but you will have to change your life. My husband has no internet access. He goes to therapy,group, quit drinking alcohol and caffeine, gave up gaming, no computer. If you know your work is a huge reason, find a different line of work. Also the opposite of addiction is connection, start with getting out more and meeting people.

 

I'm in the same situation. It is very difficult.

1) Too much freedom/lack of accountability.
2) Loneliness/isolation
3) Boredom/Stress

These are the main things that cause me to relapse. Also using my phone for personal use and wasting time on social media, which can lead to getting triggered.

What has helped for me: I downloaded an app on my Android phone that will literally lock you out of opening your phone for a set amount of time. You can still receive phone calls, but can't access anything else. It works, but can be very inconvenient in certain situations.

I still have my personal laptop, but I hardly ever use it. Which is sad, because that keeps me from using the computer for productive things like learning after work.

Remote work has a lot of upsides. But it has a lot of downsides. I can go to the office, but it's far away. I also don't because my PMO problem makes me choose the safe, comfortable choice of staying at home. But I'm realizing how this is stifling my growth in my career and as a person. I used to be so much more competitive before remote work. Now I feel like I'm getting dull and complacent.

 

There is a simple way that works for me and hope it works for you as well:

When I feel a little rise of urge in home, I usually put down everything, then pee and wash my face. After that you feel a little relieve from urge. Then, I start cleaning my room. Cleaning your room is like cleaning your mind. By removing untidy and dirty stuff, you will find yourself very much relieved.

I appreciate your bravery to speak it out. You are not alone. Feel free to chat with me anytime!

 

It's great to hear about your experience, and I completely agree! Unfortunately, pornography can often be seen as a means of escape from stress and pressure, but it's just an illusion.

We can reclaim our power of focus. Our ultimate goal is to move towards a brighter future, and abstaining from pornography is a natural step in achieving that goal. You will be excellent