Met a girl today

Take it slowly. Reflect on how you were before you met her, focus on yourself instead of obsessing over her, women don't like men who are desperate, remember that. And also, be yourself, don't try to be someone you're not, just take it slowly!

Good luck.

 

Part of this process is learning how to be a mature adult.

I mean I am not saying anything if you cannot control yourself. Compulsions often take away one's sense of control even over their thoughts.

I am saying if you want to view yourself as a responsible adult, learn how to meet people without getting weird about it.

 

If you are interested in meeting her again, keep chatting with her. In moderation. Don't seem needy but also don't go ignoring her for days on end.

That's all.

Don't let her get away so easy but be a respectful human being about it.

 

Like fantasizing sexually?

 

It will. When you find your mind beginning to fantasize it’s important to not dwell on these thoughts. Let them pass as quickly as they arrive. Occupy your mind with better things. The problem that we all face these days is that we as a society are obsessed with sex. There are much more meaningful things in life and even in relationships than sex, despite what the mainstream media would like you to believe.

 

It’s not really about having less urges, it’s more about being able to be in control of them. But this also must come from a conscious effort from you at least in the beginning. After a while it will become easier for you to divert your attention away from fantasizing as much and not allowing these thoughts to have so much power over you. I recommend meditating if it seems like the urges are too strong.

 

I would look for ways to have a good time with this person. Do stuff you both would enjoy. Especially if she is single lol. Stay focused on your life goals and don't stray off your path for her.

 

There is no specific day where things just get better. Unfortunately its different for all of us and we each recover at different rates.