MEN: Being Single is a Blessing!

I saw people madly in love in the old age and people not hating each other after some months...
Saw wrong people together generating a disaster and good people being perfect.
My cousing loved her husband, he died of covid two years ago. They were very nice and loving.

Maybe being single is a blessing opposed to beign in a terrific relationship But i think everyone is different and maybe someone is better alone.
Just my thoughts!

 

Hear, hear!!

 

Well im not sure about that. In family and work environment i feel allways as a loser, cause everybody else has a beautiful women and children and i am the nerd, who is not able to find a good wife.
If they really envy me, than why they don't simple break up and life alone?

 

Holy crap are there days where I wish I could be single. No obligations...no schedule to keep...no errands to run...no one to check on, or in with. Listen, I love my wife...but you do give up a LOT more than you realize when you get into a serious relationship!!!!!!!

I completely agree. Embrace being single and learn to LIVE without the preoccupation with finding a partner. If you can do that, chances are the pieces will fall into place. How can you share your life with another when you can't even share your life with yourself?

 

If you are a Christian, like I am, there's always a lot of conflicting thoughts about relationships.

This was the worst during my divorce.

Most Christians say, "Divorce? I would never do that!"

But they might want to read Matthew 5.

Despite what pastors think, heterosexual pre-marital sex is not a sin, per se.

It was not abolished in the laws Moses wrote.

The most detail was found in Lev 18-19, but never did it mention pre-marital sex between "unrelated" heterosexuals.

So I get mad when pastors try to create a sin, where there is none.

Probably it is done because the unsaved or searcher population is looking for moral answers.

The pastor assumes that if they tell them what they want to hear, they will come to church.

Of course, the searcher could solve it by saying "show me in the Bible where it says that."

What I am trying to say is that it isn't a sin, but that doesn't mean it's good or salubrious.

Sometimes I think it's ok if it's not a habitual thing.

"Orgies" are outlawed in the New Testament by Paul, but an orgy is not the same as heterosexual pre-marital sex.

An occasional thing is better than constant loneliness, or forcing a marriage or family where there isn't love,

or there isn't financial stability.

The other reason why I say this is because if the marriage gets stale after the honeymoon phase,

which it always will,

why should people be chained in a lifelong covenant when they live with a person

who they don't even want to so much as spend time with anymore?

It's absurd.

I can say from experience, there is nothing worse than living with a wife

who has lost her love.

Who deserves that? After all, she signed the paper too.

That is a kind of crime, imho.


Another thing I want to say about marriage is that no man OWES this to society.

No man HAS to have a wife or raise children, if the children don't exist.

It's not a man's JOB to repopulate the world.

You can repopulate the world if you want.

But you have to pay a serious ton of money.

All the expenses in raising a child I've heard come to 40% of the man's earnings.

What he gets out of that, I am not sure.

The benefit of "donating" 5 months of labor hours per year are a bit hazy.

You don't have to feel guilty, sad or lonely because you don't have kids.

You can just lead your life and decide on those things IF and WHEN such decisions arise.

Never let people use institutions and propaganda to form your major decisions.

Just one man's opinion.

 

I read somewhere single guy having no sexual activity for more than a month, have higher testosterone levels than married guys. plus people in a long-term relationship have lower levels on average.
Testosterone isn't everything but again it whats drive males to compete and ultimately into greatness

 

In few words i agree with you OP.

Be happy because of yourself, no one pays your bills, no one fix your problems, nobody gives sh*t about you. Only person who do that is you by yourself.

Better be alone forever than in toxic relationship, that really leads no where.

My father threw out my mother from house when i was around 15 years old and she took my younger brother with her (it's not my mother fault, my father is idiot and likes to drink).

Because of that event and many other events from my childhood about my parents and their toxic relationship i developed low self esteem. I m fine now last two years i m doing on my self esteem and confidence and it have got better. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger i guess.

Being married and having kids is not just as it seems. Being father means being father, being mother means being mother, very simple but not as it seems. You need to raise your child properly it's not some dog on the street.

And yeah this world has become wicked place, most people are walking zombies without their own thought in mind. Really chaotic.

Don't get me wrong relationship can be healthy and fun, but just because almost everyone is in relationship it doesn't mean you need to be with first person you see.

Doing on your own thought and using your brain to choose and make decision is not calling weird, it's calling free mind.

 

The way I see it being single has its advantages and disadvantages and the same could be said about being in a relationship. The fact is life is hard whether you're single or not. The only people who don't experience hardship are dead people.

"Only people who are dead never go through situations of being rejected or are not harassed by their feelings. Only people who are dead never go through stress, they don't suffer for love, they never go through the disappointment that follows failure." - Susan David

 

See my post, thing is it seems most women suck the energy out of men, relationship is hard work for men only,it is not hard work for the women.

 

Being single can be blessing. Being single can be a curse. Being in a relationship can be a blessing. Being in a relationship can also be a curse. It all depends upon your values, priorities and definition of a worthwhile life.

I respect your perspective.

I'd say that relationship is a challenge, it's an adventure, it is like walking into death. You've to die many times, you'll feel desperately helpless, it reveals you who you are, it unmasks you, it makes you stand naked, it reveals you the limits of your preaching and shows you who you are in practice...it destroys your vulnerability, it stabs you where it hurts the most. It crushes you to the point you are left with two options- open up and bleed in love, or shut down and protect your cloak.

It's a pretty nasty adventure. There is death. There is also rebirth. There is lesson on patience, understanding, vulnerability, kindness. It is no easy task. It annihilates the veils of self.

I personally feel that the challenge of sports or job or climbing an insurmountable peak is negotiable compared with the pain of entrapping yourself in the clasps of desire for your lover and falling into an unfamiliar abyss with no end or no idea as to what the next moment might hold.

I consider it all as beautiful, sacred and worthwhile in the mysterious journey called life

cheers!

 

//Single guys out there, just know that you are lucky to be single. Married men envy YOU!/// No it is better to be married than single, two is always better than one if both parties support eachother, I would not listen to this advice, if you are single try to become a high value guy, sleep good, eat healthy, take care of your body, exercise, develop your mind, stop watching porn, earn some money, you need money to enjoy life, buy house, car etc, do as much as you can to improve yourself, try to enjoy the process or journey, dont be demotivated if you are not there yet. Give some money to charity if you can, seems sensible thing to do than to only think about yourself and not help society a hand to improve.

 

No man its better to be married or nowadays in a relationship. You can fuck and do what you want.