Masturbation and Orgasm : Reasoning, Analysis and Guidance

Alright, so this would probably a long one, let's go :

Reasoning -
First of all, the rather foolish argument that I've seen presented sometimes that it is just a need of the human body, in that, akin to hunger, sleep, excretion etc. Welp, try not doing these for a month.
You're either dead or severely ill in all other cases except for masturbation, in which case, nothing will happen (apart from urges, will cover it later).

Next, when people do feel bad, it is often classified as due to beliefs, cultural / religious restriction and the likes. Can't say for other, but for me, I had no such barrier, parents laughed it off when I was worried and said it was okay. All the scientific literature says its ok. Needless to say, there was no such boundation in this case.
Yet, I couldn't help but find myself either irritated or disappointed in the action, right after. I chose to ignore that initially because it didn't make any sense. The frequency was also well within the normal range (3-4 times a week).

(Note : This was a few years ago and I did stumble upon the NoFap community which may have influenced my perspective)

But I came to a simple conclusion. If it is an activity that is otherwise unnecessary, then I should be able to NOT do it, without any problems. This was the point where I found it difficult and realized that this is a problem in my book.

Triggers were of course : Pornography (implicit or explicit), Imagination etc.

But there was also a side effect of this realization, you could say. Now, I am focusing on NOT doing it, essentially thinking about it much more than I'd have due to fear. This actually makes it worse and increases the urges and makes you frustrated, leading to more focus to ACTIVELY avoid it and again and again. You get the point.
Still, I was able to restrict it by banning visual / physical stimulation and made it to once per week.
For all intents and purposes, it was a non-issue at this point, as I actually forgot about it and it wasn't a bother.

Soon after, however, I realized that even the slightest of imagination based stimulation aroused me and I actually ejaculated just by thinking (this was much stronger and pleasurable in terms of sensation). It didn't come with as much bad feeling and I wanted to explore so I went along with it.

Long story short, I eventually realized that trying to avoid the pleasurable sensations results in a contradiction. Why should I not do it? Which results in the relapse. This is due to underlying conflict and ambiguity. Truth is, orgasm isn't what gives that bad feeling, ejaculation does.

You might say now, wait...hold on a minute...don't you achieve orgasm by the means of ejaculation?
This way of visualization is the problem right here. Because the answer is not.

Because of how we think about it, we naturally exert pressure in the pelvic area and tighten the muscles during arousal, leading to focus being directed there and essentially becomes the output for any sensations that you perceive. This is the wrong way of doing it.

Step -1 : Stop thinking about sexual arousal and penis in conjunction. Next, without any goal in mind, lay down in a relaxed position and meditate, with focus on breathing. If you feel focused on any single area, relax and loosen it and don't care about anything. The key to relaxation is to NOT TRY HARD to relax. Simply don't bother, whether you're thinking or not thinking. Let it be.

Step -2 : Next, observe how you feel? Aroused? Instead of fighting the sensation and engage with it, realize it.
What do you desire? Visualize whatever scenario comes in your head and satisfy it. Feel the sensation when you breathe in. If you feel pressure in pelvic area, loosen and stop bothering. Repeat. You will eventually learn to feel and direct the sexual energy that you feel and feel pleasure throughout the body.

Imagine physically touching the girl and completely realize whatever you want without restraint, that is the key. If you are actively worried of possible ejaculation, it won't work. Because as long as you don't tighten the area, it is going to be fine. At some point, you'll stop feeling the pelvic area AT ALL and go into a deeper and heightened state where your imaginary touch sensations will becomes more and more immersive, almost like hyperphantasia.

It might take some time and practice, but when you reach the peak, it is possible to orgasm many times for an hour even, orders of magnitude more powerful than stroking, all without any visual / physical stimulation. After that, you might find it difficult to continue which means that you're mentally exhausted.

Most importantly though, you'll actually feel much more energetic than before doing it, which is opposite of what you might feel after ejaculation.

This is how things are. With this method, wet dreams will stop entirely, as you've fulfilled the desire.
After some while, the desire would disappear, unless you decide to actively seek it, which is fine if that's what you're looking for, but it becomes entirely voluntary and under control.

Mediation in general can be compared to soft reset and ensuring a stable state of mind, from where onwards, you could choose to add relevant modules.

This wasn't all that well formatted, so sorry about that, but I hope it was helpful.
I had a heck ton of explanation but I tried to make it concise (yeah, I know), so if you have any questions, ask away!