Married father who can't stop

Wow! I'd say you're PIED and I'd say you're terribly stressed. Masturbation is a great stress-buster but it leads to PIED.

 

Welcome, and all the best to you.

 

Welcome Slamex, I'm new here too. Here are my thoughts.. You say do don't have sex with your wife any more. That's probably due to the fact you have a 3 and a 1 year old. When my kids were that age, I would have said something similar. Most people don't admit it but it's pretty normal for the sex to stop while the kids are young (mine didn't pick up again until the youngest was 4). There is no safer alternative to having sex than using PMO when in that situation. Much less destructive than having affairs or using prostitutes, so you need to keep it in perspective and not be too down on yourself.
Putting the kids in their rooms so you can have a wank is no different from their point of view from you putting them in their rooms while you clean the floor or wash the car.. so no need for a guilt-trip there.
I think - from what I've been reading (a lot of anecdotal evidence) and how I feel after 12 days, that giving up the porn and wanking for a while might just make you feel better, more in-control, better able to work on your relationship..
Hope it does and wish you luck. Keep busy!

 

Welcome. Take advantage of the friends and information here. HERE are some things helping me

 

From their point of view, they won’t know the difference, sure I get that. But YOU know what your doing, it’s not about being guilt free, it’s about that shame brothA. Can’t escape that feeling.....


When I use to watch my brother (I would have been 19-21ish and he would have been 4-6) I use to put the tv on for him and go for a rub out on the computer. Didn’t have internet where I was at so I thought it was a greaT opportunity to go check out some porn, since I didn’t have access to it. Had NO idea I was addicted, back then (2008-2009ish)I welcomed porn with open arms, never NeVER did I expect the damage it I was doing to myself.

I wish I took the opportunity to hang out and lead my brother. It’s not about the guilt, it’s about the shame. We’ll all suffer less if we can just stop PMO, good luck and be kind to yourself