I've noticed that when I have sex with my girlfriend, it's almost as I picture it as porn. I I know it's wrong, and it seems like I've lost the making love or Intamancy that we have when you make love. Occasionally after a romantic night it's there, but if we just get turned on and start having sex it's not. I've done positions that I've seen in porn and dirty talked a little and wondering if that has anything to do with with the lost intamacy and contributions to it. I want that special feeling back because I'm afraid I'm never gonna have it again, I want to feel really connected instead of just the feeling good of having sex.
In trying to really focus on it more and takin it slower though but idk if focusing on it is making it worse. I almost feel like I have taken it for granted, because everytime we made our we usually had sex. So now I'm asking before moving on when we do stuff
