long time lurker finally posting

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by tall dude, Jan 21, 2021.

do you think I will ever fully recover

  1. yes, you're on the way

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  2. no, just enjoy what you have

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  3. yes, but you're missing something

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  1. tall dude

    tall dude New Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone
    I've been reading on this forum for years but never actually thought of posting

    ill give you a bit of background

    -PMO since very young age im 30 now
    -fit and well, smoked here and there and drank here in there
    I've lived most of my life having good erections with porn and any foreplay. It all started going downhill with my first time having sex at 16
    it just didnt work
    after that I could achieve erections with foreplay bj/hj but never with sex

    it carried on until I discovered ed pills at 17
    that started a streak of events where I could have sex entirely reliant on pills with a regular partner and I had great sex

    when I was 21 I broke up with my regular partner. quit drinking. quit smoking. starting heavily exercising and moved countries
    I still PMO
    didnt have sex for 2 years

    then got into another relationship and very early on explained that I have ED
    so I survived two years with sex that isn't that great but keep me going. again entirely reliant on pills
    stil PMO
    after her, I really starting looking into nofap. and tried going on streaks of upto 90 days but noticed not difference in erections without pills
    what was scary was that sex with pills gave me ED as well
    I decided not to ever go back to PM
    that gave me mixed results but the one consistent thing I found was that whenever I am upfront about my ED and tell the girl upfront and have a conversation about it, my ED almost disappears and I even managed to have sex with a condom for the first time. it was a relief because I get tested after every single time I have sex.

    im coming upto a year now since I've last seen porn and I genuinely dont miss it that much anymore
    I just want to be able to have sex without pills

    all the suggestions by folks on her kind of works for me, but the only factor that is different with me is that I always use pills.
    when flatline hit me hard, I went and had a full urological exam including a nighttime erection monitor and that cleared up. I even had bloods and a spine CT to rule out Ed and that all came back clear

    I still dont feel like im recovering from ED. yes, communication, foreplay and all that gives me better sex
    but I still spend hundreds every month on pills
    and I dont remember the last time I woke up with an erection

    I still feel my dick is broken (as well as my brain)

    if anyone is similar to my situation I'd love to connect and chat some more
    sorry for the random sequence of storytelling

    I can talk about this for years, if anyone wants to ask me anything feel free to
    im a postgrad in medical field, and I used my university access to read about ED articles more than I have about my field. Frustrated is the least I can say about me