Hi, I am excited that i discovered this page and all the positive experiences listed by all these people of trying nofap. Let me share my story: I am a 29 yo healthy male (i will explain this later) and i have been fapping for at least 16 years. I fap almost every day and some times 2 or even 3 times per day. I've never considered this as an addiction because i've never gone many days without it and i always thought that is normal to fap when you don't have sex. But the last 6-7 years i've been dealing with some issues/symptoms both physical and mental. It's worth to mention that I had tons of medical tests attended for various of issues and EVERYTHING comes back normal. But still, I don't feel normal. Physical symptoms: - Legs pain and heaviness no matter what I do - Constant burping and bad digestion - Ear buzz especially at nights - Trouble staying asleep (I usually wake up to pee) - No morning wood most days of the last years (very frustrating) - Minor irritation of skin above my lips (this is not constant) - Fatigue (and I mean a lot of it). I have reached a point where I only want to go home from work and spend all of my free time on the couch. I even quit the gym 2 months ago because i have no energy to attend. - Muscle pain (not always) - Back and shoulder pain (or tightness you may say) - Peeing quite frequently throughout the day (even if i don't drink much water) - Feeling sleepy throughout the day - Never feeling rested or energetic - Brain fog (this is annoying. I feel like im drunk when driving at work in the morning and of sometimes throughout the day) - Feeling spaced out in general Mental symptoms: - Sense of emptiness and loneliness - Lack of interest in pretty much everything - I get anxious over non important stuff - Mood is averagely low except some times when i am "normal" - Stress (not quite always but a lot more than normal) - Sometimes I am bored to even have a conversation with someone. Its like i dont give a fuck. So, to begin with my life is pretty much normal and I dont have any serious problems (good job, good car, good friends, decent family, average looks) and I shouldn't be feeling this way. I went to a psychologist and he said that i am "too conscious" and put too much pressure on myself and this is pretty much the "label" of my problems. Anyway i tried tons of natural medicine to overcome my symptoms (valeriana, lavender capsules, magnesium, iron, 5htp, b-complex, rhodiola, ZMA, buscopan (for my gut issues) even homeopathic (what a load of crap) and NOTHING seems to work on me. literally NOTHING. I didn't take these all at once btw. Now on the fap front. I didn't realize that porn and fap can be an addiction because i always viewed it as a way to satisfy yourself especially during periods without a girlfriend. I thought that is normal for people who don't have frequent sex, to fap instead. I still don't know if im addicted because i've been doing it straight on for so long and really dont know what I would feel without it. I've spend long periods of my life without a gf or a steady sex partner and i would always fill that gap with fap. I've just now realized that the only thing that i missed from my last relationship was the strong sex we had and nothing about the girl. I've always looked at most girls in my life like sex machines. I have become very skeptic because I've always read so many positive reviews of the herbs I used to "Treat" my symptoms and NOTHING worked on me. BUT, the only constant thing on the duration of my symptoms was the fap routine. Could it be so simple as that? I mean i could not masturbate for the rest of my life and be a normal person again? I am on day two and i dont feel urge the fap. My dick feels so much "beat up" now that I've become aware of that. Did anyone have any similar symptoms and relief when started nofap? It would really help me along my journey. Thank you
Hey mgz069, Welcome to the NoFap community! I can't say I've personally had all of the symptoms you've described. I have had brain fog and tiredness, and NoFap has definitely helped. If you haven't already, I recommend looking at this information on rebooting. I've found it helpful in knowing what to expect. Feel free to message me or anyone else here if you have questions or want to talk. Best of luck during your reboot. Again, Welcome!
Welcome! I'm glad you're here. For me, masturbating and looking at porn wasn't associated with too many physical symptoms. Naturally I would make my penis sore, and I would lack energy at times from lack of sleep; and I would get where I couldn't get an erection. And, yes, I was mentally distracted and had less focus. That was about it for me. For me, the benefits are about how I see myself, I have a clean conscience, my spiritual life is better, and I have more integrity and self control. I hope you keep coming back.
thank u guys. im on day 3 my dick is like a marshmallow. i didn't have a single boner since i started nofap. this indicates how much "beat up" my sausage was. in fact, now i recall that most of the times that i fapped is not because i had a boner but instead I forced myself to get one!
Be patient. Day 3 is nothing... Morning woods will return, it's just a matter of time. It's a 3 months not 3 days journey to rebalance your brain chemistry. As for the symptoms, I can relate to: Physical symptoms: - Trouble staying asleep (I usually wake up to pee) - No morning wood most days of the last years (very frustrating) - Fatigue (and I mean a lot of it). I have reached a point where I only want to go home from work and spend all of my free time on the couch - Peeing quite frequently throughout the day (even if i don't drink much water) - Feeling sleepy throughout the day - Never feeling rested or energetic - Brain fog (this is annoying. I feel like im drunk when driving at work in the morning and of sometimes throughout the day) - Feeling spaced out in general Mental symptoms: - Sense of emptiness and loneliness - Lack of interest in pretty much everything - Mood is averagely low except some times when i am "normal" - Stress - Sometimes I am bored to even have a conversation with someone. Its like i dont give a fuck. I'm on day 80 now and things are becoming better for me, but I still don't feel overly good, so don't expect miracles over night. No sex/PMO is a hard and unpleasant journey, where you will face your worst psych underlying issues. You have to be prepared to suffer or it'll be too hard and you will relapse to your old ways. I'm coping with exercise, some pray, some meditate, it's not one man answer, but you have to have something to lift you up, when you feel so shitty, you're about to give up. Lastly, NoFap is not the final answer to your problems( at least not for most of us) it's just the first step on path of improving our lives (changing habits, relations, resolving underlying issues...).
mgz! 3 days here too!! same symptoms, my penis has been dead the whole 3 days. I used to get boners just by watching some sort of porn, but in the last year I was forcing myself too, to the point that I wouldn't get a boner unless I stimulated it. The worst part is that I have a hot wife and I get to have sex at least 3 times a week, my addiction is so bad that I still needed to masturbate twice a day. Anyways keep us posted! Best of luck to you!
Hey @mgz069 , I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me. Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much. What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode. First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals. Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals. Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational". That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community. --> L PS: One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @C. J. - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/153580/ --- @Reverent - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/ --- @KbLnW - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152710/ --- @Struggle Bug - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/ --- @BigDawg913 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/ --- There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.
