Loneliness is born from evil

Loneliness has its advantages also. For instance, you can think better when people aren't constantly in your ear.

 

I can't add anything, both of you speak the truth.

All I can say for certainty is that when I was married, my life improvement was in the crapper.

When I have been alone, man, I did so many things that I wanted to accomplish.

 

I'm curious about your position that "every experience, thought, or feeling of loneliness is the result of a falsehood, lie, or bad intentions".
When circumstances change, like the death of a loved one or moving to a new city/situation, one can experience deep feelings of loneliness. I don't know that I'd say the origin of loneliness is evil, however, we do have a choice in how we will respond to loneliness. This is not to minimize the deep feelings of loneliness that some might suffer. Each experiences levels of loneliness differently, I know I have experienced certain levels of loneliness in the past. I know what worked for me to overcome loneliness. It was making changes to my lifestyle, diet, social circles, substance intake, and stopping porn consumption.

Having said that, I think loneliness can kill a soul. And for some, knowing how to over loneliness can be a huge challenge. I know some whom I believed killed themselves as a means to stop the loneliness.

I'd also say that loneliness is marked by a sense of isolation. Solitude, on the other hand, is a state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self-awareness. I actually love the latter but am usually very comfortable with the former, most times.

I was talking to a friend many years ago, listening to them share their insights and experiences, and at the same time, inside feeling like I could fall off the edge of the world and die. I can vividly remember times when my insides were crying because I was so lonely, yet my outward appearance was saying, I'm going to show up, here I am all the while wishing and hoping someone would reach out to me and be present with me.

 

So, is this because you weren't ready for a marriage relationship, do you think?

 

That's one reason for sure. My life improvement was in the crapper before that, but being married made it stay like that. I was getting rewarded for being a loser.