Loneliness and Depression

I think you are definitely in the right direction. I wouldnt worry about the girlfriend just yet. Focus on your life. Think about it this way, if you arent even happy with yourself and your life what would make someone else happy with it? Your partner should be an awesome supplement to your life that you already love, not the reason that life is all of a sudden ok again. stay strong and focus on yourself.

 

Yeah I would say don't worry about the girlfriend, I agree with what @jetscooled said. Maybe start with a goal of going a week without masturbation, see how it goes and learn from it, then go further if you can. Also think of other parts of your life that you'd like to improve and start working on them, start learning things you think you should know. Focus on developing other hobbies and skills

 

hey bro thanks for sharing.

I suggest make yourself strong by developing new routines and disciplines.

Remember the source of your power is within you - what you do in secrecy and silently you will manifest as self-confidence from within.

If you start setting new disciplines and follow through with them your confidence grows.

For example, starting a new discipline like meditation, raising up early, exercising, fasting, and other activities which are the opposite of giving in to the short term pleasures of the senses such as over eating, oversleeping, laziness all make one feel more depressed.

I find that all 5 senses has to be controlled.

My eyes, my tongue, my skin, my thoughts, my emotions all want to be toggled by new stimulations.

But once I realize no external stimulation can actually give me the love and intimacy I am yearning for I can stop seeking it, and I can instead start to go to the source of happiness which is my very consciousness and seeking the kingdom of heaving within me.

Once i discover the kingdom of heaven within, in my solitude, in my self-discipline, in my suffering, i will be at peace with myself and naturally will be able to relate to other people more authentically without needing any thing from them.

So my suggestions is to seek self-fulfillment and once you reach that you will naturally attract some one to share this joy with, rather than the other way around to try to find fulfillment through people and things, and become hung over when the relationship falls apart.

 

im 26, never had a real girlfriend. My tip is to stay active on the forums and not forget what you have signed up to. Try hitting the gym, meditate a little. Read some inspiring literature. If your depression is so bad that you dont feel able to do anything, it is time to get help. Call a therapist, join a group. I have my studies on hold atm. I got a spot on a clinic which are specialists on treating schizophrenia. Just trying to keep myself alive for another month so I can get some real help.