List of things that trigger me.

Yea i completely get that with your number 5 issue, bc i seem to have the same thing alot, no real reason to enjoy life sometimes, but maybe do something you never thought you would do. Maybe look into buying a mountain bike and ride trails, I thought of that, or buya motorcycle or atv, join a reliab;e dating group that isn't a sex hookup, just some thoughts i came up with off the top of my head.

 

Hang in there my friend, it is difficult. To deal with number 5 try putting things in the way. Sometimes in life you'll find that things naturally will get in the way but at times you have to do most of it. I struggle every single day almost habitually looking at porn from the moment I wake up on my phone and then ending it looking at the same websites laying in bed. I do not intend to preach but when I read your post I can certainly relate because it is indeed the same triggers I have as well that lead me to porn. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts here. I struggle to not let Porn impact my life negatively but it certainly has so hang in there and Im glad Im not alone and you are not either.

 

This is a great starting point for all of us @skaterdrew , even I see myself on your list.

I tried to give sensible, and logical answers, based on my long experience, for your points, I mean OUR points, I hope they are inspiring and helpful.

1- It seems normal to me, maybe the opposite would be unusual, the question is, am I horny because I live on porn, I feed on porn, and porn flows in my veins, or am I horny because like most of the people I have sexual desires, stimulated by internal body, hormonal and psychic stimuli? I would say the second answer.

2- Could porn increase these states or alleviate them? Assuming that we are all here, I would say the second answer. "Porn" is not able to solve our problems at home, at work, or in college. It's a fact.

3- This depends on our habits, if we are bored, perhaps we are more likely to be slaves of our mental states, with the consequence of finding ourselves doing what we do not want to do. The solution? We have to get busy-healthily and constructively.

4- If I simply look, I must also know that then I will hardly go back, I will already be grip to the procedure as we know well. Perhaps the problem is in giving importance to that thought of curiosity. There may also be a curiosity for me, about: to fly without a parachute, try to eat chocolate for a whole month, and drive without hands; I know, the results would be disastrous.

5- Let's take this time without porn, and try to use it in a better way. Each of us has different characteristics that must be discovered, let's find out.

We deserve to break this chain.

 

The main thing I struggle with is the idea that this isn't just for 90 days, it's for life.

90 days in my mind seems incredibly difficult, but doable. However, the thought that I'll never fap or look at something arousing again just doesn't compute in my mind as being possible, not when I'm single and the likelihood of getting into a relationship(whether serious or casual) is pretty much zero - not in my current reclusive socially anxious state. Pretty much every streak ends because of this reason. I just get to the point where I feel so down about the position I've got myself in that I use porn to just forget about it, of course though this effect is only temporary and just feeds into the same negative cycle. This is my trigger.

Building on from that I think where this addiction is "unfair" is that it's strongly tied to a primal biological need. That's not the same with drugs, smoking, alcohol, gambling and other addictions. People may have gotten themselves addicted to those things but your body never naturally developed a requirement for them. We don't have the innate desire to smoke crack or get drunk, we do however have the biological desire to have sex and if you're not having sex then what? Replacing the need for sex with riding a bike or playing an instrument just isn't going to do it, they're nothing more than a distraction but there's surely only so long they can distract you from what your body craves. What also doesn't help is that porn/graphic material is pretty much everywhere, at least with drugs or whatever you have to actively go out of your way to get them, you don't just open up your browser and have them shoved in your face.